I wrote a while back about someone who use to be one of my best friends. One day she just stopped talking to me, accepting my calls, or responding to any emails I sent her. I apologized and told her whatever I did I was sorry although I honestly to this day have no idea what it was that I did. Finally after 6 months of no communication I received an email. I had still been trying to contact her every now and again. We caught up a little and then she stopped responding again. She never even mentioned the fact that we hadn't talked in 6 months. I told myself not to push the issue since I was glad she was responding again. I thought maybe we could be distant friends. So I waited and emailed her again a little over a month later and she emailed back again and then yet she stopped again.

I had heard that she stopped talking to me because of the way I had changed due to a previous relationship. I admit that I hit a rough patch and I desperately needed my friends to get me through. I felt like my best friend abandoned me and I guess it hurts because I never got that closure.

However the more time goes on and we talk less and less I am beginning to think I should forgive & forget. First I want to forgive her and then I want to forget her. In my heart I have a hard time turning my back on an old friend but then in my mind I think that they were obviously not a real friend to just walk out on me with no explanation & never look back.

I have great friends in my life now, old & new & an amazing boyfriend. For once in my life I feel that I could be completely happy if this one issue didn't nag at me every once in a while. Should I just forget about trying to reconnect with her?

Hello, There could be many reasons. You'll never know until she wants you to know. She may just feel she has little in common with you or maybe you strike up some insecurity within her she cannot face or is not willing to face at present. It's not wrong to feel the way you do as nobody likes to feel rejected.

I understand what your saying and then the only question remaining is do I think its worth sticking around until she feels like talking about it? I feel like I have spent enough time worrying about it and trying to mend something on my own.

It takes the other person to make some effort too. We don't dispose of our friends. We can be accepting of them and their differences. You may want to ask yourself is this person a friend. If you try too hard to encourage someone to make more effort sometimes it frightens them off. The more relaxed you appear the more likely you will have the chance of them popping up into your life more often. Be gentle with yourself. It would seem you have made all the efforts. I would let go and use that energy to enjoy all the wonderful things I have in my life right now. I hope this helps as I've been in a similar situation.