Originally Posted by jiltedgirl
While I was going through the break up with my ex-boyfriend, I met this guy that seemed nice enough. He was amusing and had the same interests as me. He started talking to me online, I talked to him and everything was friendly. However, he insisted on meeting up with me and basically expressed how much he liked me. This really surprised me because he said he had a girlfriend. So I told him that I would never want to be anything more than friends with him. I told him straight up that I didn't care if he and his girlfriend was "drifting apart." Meeting up with him, especially now that I knew he was harboring feelings for me, would be wrong and the equivalent of emotionally cheating. I told him he should instead talk to his girlfriend and work things out. And if he was so intent on leaving his poor, clueless girlfriend, he shouldn't do it because of some girl (aka me) and do it for the right reasons.
Later on, he broke up with his girlfriend and asked to meet up, which I consented to. I was emotionally vulnerable and made the mistake of making out with him, but afterwards, I realized I wasn't over my ex-boyfriend. He kept IMing me and sending me incessant emails afterwards because I hadn't been online much. So I told him that I didn't want to be anything more than friends because I was going through alot of stuff. He told me he understood, but his constant IMing, even when I'm idle, and the myriad of emails began to annoy me. I eventually blocked him. Yesterday he sent me another email telling me how he would do anything to go back to being friends. I basically told him the truth. I told him that I was very sorry, but I couldn't be friends with him because I didn't reciprocate his feelings. And as much as I or he wanted to be friends, he obviously doesn't feel that way and to continue being "friends" would be unfair to both of us.
I feel very guilty, especially because I've been in his place before. Am I a horrible person?