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  • Feb 8, 2008, 09:30 PM
    crazy-mambo
    Friends secret relationship
    OK so I have 3 friends and 1 sister involved in this
    There’s a.. John (16), who is my best friend and my sister, sasha's (16) boyfriend. Lara (14) is John's little sister, and also a really good friend of mine. Now here's the dilemma I also have this other friend called Max (16), now john doesn't trust max around his sister, lara, and max has been texting lara a lot lately and for a while me and john have been saying it's a bit weird and we both didn't really want max near lara. A couple of days ago though max asked if he could tell me a secret, so he came over and showed me a pic of him and lara together.. they have been going out for a month secretly! He told me I can't tell ANYONE but me and my sister are really close and I tell her EVERYTHING but I'm afraid that if I tell her this then she will tell john and it won't be very good.

    Now this all wouldn't be that bad except for the fact that lara is sneaking out at night and max is picking her up when he doesn't have his full licence yet. I know she's still a virgin and I told him that she better stay that way for a while, but I'm also pretty dam sure they've done 'stuff' and I know its none of my business but I'm worried about her.

    I haven't talked to lara about it yet, but still I'm not too sure that them going out is the best idea especially when no one knows except me... :confused:

    I want to tell sasha but I've been sworn to secrecy, I want to tell John but I'm afraid he'll want to kill max and plus my friendship with max would be over completely.
    But seriously id pick the safety and happiness of lara and john over my friendship with max anytime.

    Ahh so what do you reckon?
    Please tell me if you don't understand any of my weird story OK
    Thanks heaps :D
  • Feb 8, 2008, 09:41 PM
    Cheshire2008
    Hmmm When you are sworn to secrecy things always become complicated.
    I think you answer is in your question
    "but seriously id pick the safety and happiness of lara and john over my friendship with max anytime."

    Can you speak to lara directly? Tell her you are concerned or is that out of the question.

    I do not think it is good for a 14 year od to sneak out
    I certainly do not think she should be fooling around
    And he doesn't have a license yet and is driving.
    Tell your friend John to stay up late and keep an eye on lara. That would definitely bust the whole thing and you haven't "Told anyone anything" right??
    Good luck
    Ps secrets never work because everyone has someone the trust so they tell that person and so on and so on.
  • Feb 8, 2008, 09:43 PM
    oneguyinohio
    Write it in your diary or blog and let/makeyour sister find it... that way you have a way out of admitting that you snitched... and you both can claim it was accidental... you don't want to mess up your relationship with sister... and if you are going behind her and her boyfriends back... Max can say you knew all along when the truth does come out...

    Lara might not be too happy, but she can be mad at Max for spilling the beans...
  • Feb 8, 2008, 09:48 PM
    Cheshire2008
    Hmmm One guy I like the way you think
    Sneaky creative
    Good answer!
  • Feb 8, 2008, 10:00 PM
    crazy-mambo
    Thanks heaps! :D
    Ill try out your suggestions
    I think I'm just going to tell sasha anyway
    Cause max seriously shouldn't be going out with lara and he knows it

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