My ex of 5 yrs had left me a year and half ago and is married. I'm in a relationship with someone in whom we are getting married? Months ago my ex started calling and coming over to my apt uninvited twice the first time I told him not to do this and two weeks ago he came over uninvited when I was at work my brother talked to him for a while he left. 'when my bro told me I called him and asked him why he came by... when we talk he tells me how unhapppy he is and that he was happier when he was with me but what doesn't make sense is when we were separated and trying to be civil to him he lashed out and said he wanted nothing to do with me... and hung up never answered my calls now he's pouring his heart out... whats the deal does he see me as his friend or is he using me because he knows I know him we have a past together we cheated with one another throughout the duration of his marriage him calling me for advice to clear his mind. Why is he not with me then if I'm so great of a person for him over these years.. hes happier with me than with his wife he stated he doesn't know if he loves her but tells me when we were dealing with each other need advice?

Show him the door. Tell him, in no uncertain terms, to never ever contact you again and if he does, you will seek a restraining order or something to that effect.

I agree, if you were so great, why didn't he stay? He thought the grass was greener on the other side and found out it was not. Well, too bad. You moved on. You said you are getting married. Do you honestly love the guy you are engaged to? Do you see yourself with him in five years? Ten years?

He has no business coming to your apt uninvited. Tell him so and tell your brother never to let that guy in. Never. He was miserable with you when you two were together and look now, he is miserable with his wife. Do you see the pattern already? Stay away from him and keep your doors locked. Concentrate on your fiancé and upcoming wedding. Work seriously on THAT relationshiip. Make that one work like you want it to.

Good luck.

Thnks the advice interesting to hear someone else's advice?

Put him in the past, and close the door on that pathetic, sick, unhealthy part of your life, by any means necessary. Move ahead to health, and happiness.

I am willing to bet, all the advice you receive, will be along those lines.