Me and our daughter or his mommy
Hello. I have a difficult problem. I am 34 years old and my boyfriend is 28. Before he was my boyfriend he was my best friend. We got pregnant and had a beautiful little girl 8 months ago and have been together as a couple for a year and 8months. Everything has basically been great between us. We are both divorced and have children from our previous relationships plus our child together. He had to file for bankruptcy when he got divorced and has been living with his parents since then. After I had our daughter I went back to college to get my degree in nursing and have moved into an apartment that my parents own with my son and our daughter to save money. He has been living with his parents for almost 4 years now. The only fight we have had this whole time is that I want him to grow up and be responsible which is basically I just want him to not go to the bar every night and to hang out with people we have more in common with as opposed to the 23year olds he hangs out with that all have no responsibilities! We worked that out to limit bar night to just one night a week and all was well. Then two fridays ago we went to a dance together with my friends and his parents and brother and sister in law. I use to be close to his family but ever since we got pregnant things have been strained between his mother and I. Anyway at the dance his mom and sister in law kept pulling him away from our friends. Then half way through the dance an old neighbor of his came up and started talking to his family. She is married and about 39 years old. Everyone was a little drunk and she started hanging on him and flashing everyone her breasts. Other people that I knew at the dance started coming up to me and asking who the woman hanging all over my boyfriend was. I was irritated and embarrassed so I pulled him aside to talk to him. Half way through our conversation the neighbor comes over and tries to interrupt. I told her to go away and mind her own business. At that point his parents interrupt and tell me I can't control who he talks to. I said I didn't want to control him all I ever wanted was for him to grow up and be responsible. His mother told me that he is responsible and I said why then has he never contributed finacially to our daughter at that point his dad told me to get a lawyer. He and I tried to talk but his parents told him not to talk to me and made him leave with them. I didn't talk to him again till that Sunday. He said he still loves me and wants us to be together but that his family keeps telling him not to be. We have had the same conversation almost everyday since then. He always says he loves me and wants to be together and I make him happy but his family is pulling him in one direction and I am pulling him in the other. We have still been intimate, he always says he loves me when we talk, always kisses me good bye, and still says he wants us to be together but his family. He says he wishes he could just be numb and not have to feel any of this and has been drinking a lot more since this happened. I think he is very depressed and doesn't know what or how to do what he needs to do. I just don't know what to do. I love him and I want to be a family for our daughter. I don't know what to do to help him. I would be very grateful for any advice. Thanks.