What would it be?

Now, don't go beating yourself up physically, I think we do that way too much in our society.

I am asking more about you as a person,. what is the one thing you would like to change about yourself?

Me? I wish I could stop being so darn oversensitive... :o (get feelings hurt on the fast side, especially if I care about the person)

And you? What would you like to change?

Interesting question!

I, like you, am overly sensitive and get my feelings hurt easily. I sometimes spend way too much time wondering and stressing about why the people I care about ( or even aquaintances) can treat me so badly sometimes, when I always try to treat them with concern and respect.
I sometimes end up angry and resentful towards those people, because I don't understand their lack of empathy. I also often get angry when they call me with their problems, and when I need and ear, they are too busy. I'm always the "go to" person. So, I guess that is something I would want to change so it doesn't bring me down when it feels like they are too busy in their daily life to care what is going on in mine. :)

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Originally Posted by starbuck8

I sometimes spend way too much time wondering and stressing about why the people I care about ( or even aquaintances) can treat me so badly sometimes, when I always try to treat them with concern and respect.
I sometimes end up angry and resentful towards those people, because I don't understand their lack of empathy. I also often get angry when they call me with their problems, and when I need and ear, they are too busy. I'm always the "go to" person. So, I guess that is something I would want to change so it doesn't bring me down when it feels like they are too busy in their daily life to care what is going on in mine. :)

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Hi Starbuck,

Oh a lot of what you said sounds so familiar and it feels so good to not be alone. And Star, I mean this with all sincerity... you ever need an ear... I have two... and there always ready to listen.

I bet you and I are not alone in feeling some of these things. :).

Knock on my door anytime :) and thanks so much for sharing.

Thanks so much! I just may take you up on that the next time I'm pulling my hair out wondering "what just happened there?" Ditto to you!. I just so happen to have 2 ears too, so anytime you need to bend one, feel free! :)

Physically lol my boobs hell they need lifting, personality wise god this will sound big headed nothing I wouldn't change a thing I am who I am and I'm proud of that.

We all have weekness's but we should all be able to turn them into our strengths.

I always seem to put myself on the backburner.

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Originally Posted by curlybenswife

i wouldnt change a thing i am who i am and im proud of that.

We all have weekness's but we should all be able to turn them into our strengths.

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We all should say this 10x a day, have it tatotted to our foreheads and dance like no one is watching... or even heck... like the world is watching and we are proud to show our moves:p

Well done CBW -

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Originally Posted by Allheart

We all should say this 10x a day, have it tatotted to our foreheads and dance like no one is watching...or even heck...like the world is watching and we are proud to show our moves:p

Well done CBW -

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Hehehehee come on over hunn and shake that fine booty ;)

I would love so much to be able to say how I really feel. It seems as though I do not explain myself and my feelings as well as others. :)
BUT, if it all comes down to shaking my stuff, I have no problems! LOL Just ask my embarrassed kids!

I would like to have more compassion and patience with others.

I hold myself to high standards of personal responsibility, and of being self-sufficient, and I hold everyone ELSE to those standards too. Sometimes, though, people can't stand on their own feet, and I need to remember that I don't know what someone else's story is, and being kind to them is more loving than being angry with them for it.

I wouldn't care or worry about what other people think or feel about me, EVER!

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Originally Posted by shatteredsoul

I wouldn't care or worry about what other people think or feel about me, EVER!

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:) :) :) :) :) Good girl! I don't care about what people think about me, just wish I could tell them, lol:D

I'd like to knock off my rosy glasses and my perpetual-Barbie-girl-optimism once in a while...

I tend to be a pushover at times, I let the softer side of my personality take over and I smudge the issue...

I'd love to be able to discern what's true, honest, and real, rather than assume that everything is always good, or that "they" always mean well and have "my best interest" at heart...

Does that make sense?

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Originally Posted by startover22

I would love so much to be able to say how I really feel. It seems as though I do not explain myself and my feelings as well as others. :)
BUT, if it all comes down to shakin my stuff, I have no problems! LOL Just ask my embarassed kids!

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Rock on!. shake your stuff all over, and embarrass those kids! Lord knows they so it to us all the time! :D

START, I have gone from being the most loud mouth assertive person, to containing my emotions and not sharing every opinion out loud. The problem is, now there are people that deserve to hear what I think but it just creates more problems in the end. So maybe not caring what people think, say or feel about me will eliminate that problem! Yes Historianchick, you make lots of sense.. I think.. lol.. no seriously, you would read between the lines and be able judge people's intentions, and interests... yes I can totally relate to that. The rosy colored glasses keep things in a positive perspective, but not always the correct one..

Oh, don't I know about the whole "positive vs. correct perspective"!! It's a constant battle of mine.

I've been blessed with that perpetual Barbie-girl-optimism even though I've come through some pretty rough junk... I'm thankful for it, but I'd love to have a little stronger backbone at times! :)

Hey HChick, this place has really helped me get on track with that. Some of the people on here have taught me a great deal about rising up and not letting people use you, emotionally, physically, actually in any way. In some respects I have caused a lot of scuff here at home and with people I know because of my new found back bone. So be real careful, lol! In other instances it has helped with getting the respect I really deserved!

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Originally Posted by HistorianChick

I'd like to knock off my rosy glasses and my perpetual-Barbie-girl-optimism once in a while....

I tend to be a pushover at times, I let the softer side of my personality take over and I smudge the issue....

I'd love to be able to discern what's true, honest, and real, rather than assume that everything is always good, or that "they" always mean well and have "my best interest" at heart...

Does that make sense??

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That makes total sense to me! I tend to always want to see the best in people, and want to think their motives and intentions are coming from a good places... when in fact, I don't stop to think about what their own personal agenda might be. If I did that more often, maybe I wouldn't get so upset when I find out that some people are less than sincere, and in fact, down right cruel sometimes.

Oh, I'm never "walked on" per say, I just don't always say what I want to say.

I have enough of my Mother in me to not be walked on! LOL! :)

I didn't mean I let people walk all over me either, because my personality is part angel part b#*ch if I get pushed. I just tend to walk into situations with my eyes half closed sometimes, and I end up doing this contortionist move later when I'm trying to kick myself in the A$$. ;)