Well I have not seen the man I was presently with anymore. Although I do talk to him on the phone and I am trying to stop that. As mentioned before he was into all kinds of sex, from,swinging,swapping,shemales,men,many women,animals,watching porn,wanted to watch me with others. Well I have tried to cut ties, but its very hard as I hate being alone. I almost feel he was better than nothing. So I don't know where to go now. Have no one. Friends all are married or have boyfriends. So where do I start to meet men? Will it just happen? Will it happen when I least expect it? All I want is someone to love and share everything with. I can't seem to find it and I am ready to give up on that man that is suppose to be out there.Everyone tells me it will come. I go out for lunch,dinner the movies, but where is he? I am not a bar person, was on the internet and met liars and jerks like I had. Does anyone out there know what I am going through and can give me some advice.

First of all, u shouldn't been involved with dude in the first place. Sounds like to me he a daredevil. If all u say he was doing is true, then u need to get tested for everything in the book and hope like hell you are all right. Second of all, love do indeed come when u least expect it and occasionally when u expect it, but don't sit there watching the clock and waiting on it to happen because u make yourself available for whatever. And from the way things sound, u seem a bit vulnerable. So relax and keep a focus on thingsyou like to do, for instance your job, hobbies,etc and before u know it someone genuine will come along and then u just might find love. Good luck!

While you are feeling lonely, desperate and needy you won't find love. Neediness and desperation will instantly repel guys and they can smell it a mile off. If you do find someone, you will attract the wrong types of guys - abusers and sick individuals like the guy you described in your post will zero in on your neediness and use it to their full advantage.

You need to work on yourself first. Read books about building yourself esteem and really learn to love yourself. Do things that you enjoy and you excel at, and it will make you feel good, and pay attention to your appearance and walk with your head held high. Confidence is sexy, and once you feel better about yourself and more confident, you are far more likely to find a decent guy.

Best wishes :)

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Originally Posted by packer04

Well I have not seen the man I was presently with anymore. Although I do talk to him on the phone and I am trying to stop that. As mentioned before he was into all kinds of sex, from,swinging,swapping,shemales,men,many women,animals,watching porn,wanted to watch me with others. Well I have tried to cut ties, but its very hard as I hate being alone. I almost feel he was better than nothing. So I don't know where to go now. Have no one. Friends all are married or have boyfriends. So where do I start to meet men? Will it just happen? Will it happen when I least expect it? All I want is someone to love and share everything with. I can't seem to find it and I am ready to give up on that man that is suppose to be out there.Everyone tells me it will come. I go out for lunch,dinner the movies, but where is he? I am not a bar person, was on the internet and met liars and jerks like I had. Does anyone out there know what I am going thru and can give me some advice.

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Are you for real . Change your number babe, next time a guy holds adoor for you or next time you buy a book or a coke or coffee ,chat to the person next to you ,keep doing that,then ask some one if he fancies a coffee ,if 1 in 10 accept or 20 accept great beats that freak you where with

I would suggest Susan Jeffers; I'm reading one and have another on the shelf, next.

I agree with roogirl as long as you feel desperate that anything is better than nothing you better run far from any guy. You need to get a strong conviction and vision of what you want in a guy.

Hopefully I hope that it is never late you left him its good for you in the same way don't go for a relationship such as love let it come your way in life its really possible if you let things you love the most if it comes back to you its yours if not it never was yours so just be calm don't get into to a relationship unless you know its true and CLEAN...

Best Regards
Niroshan Raj

Love therapist