My Boyfriend is al alcoholic
We have been together for 2 years, and he is in rehab again. I know what many if you will be thinking, leave him, but I do go to Alanon, and have made the decision to stay for now. Anyway, We had an argument last week because I had said I was not sure about US. He got very angry, defensive and said I say that every two weeks, I get emotional and take it out on him. Anyway, he was pissed and did not call me for four days-I was not able to call him due to where he is at. When we spoke last night, he said that me arguing with him all the time, has made him doubtful about US as welol, and he cannot handle that stress right now-he needs to focus on himself, I tried to explain to him that I want to be with him, but need to feel more appreciated, need to reassured he loves me. We've spoken about marriage, but he says that I get too way ahead of myself, and that we would have to wait until he gets his together. I understand and realistically he is right, but why can't he just be more passionate about things-instead I love, what does he love about me, etc. Anyway, I am confused, how do I communicate to a man who always gets defensive, and goes away to his emotional cave whenever I ask him to be more loving. I know I am not communicating too well. For any sober alcoholic men out there, is it possible for this relationship to work, are you still with your wife/fiancee from when you started your journey into sobriety-the women who supported you-are they still around?