Sister can't stop partying
First of all Hello to everyone.
I desperately need help with my sister. Let me tell you about our family's current situation. For about the past 13 years my parents have been supporting my older sister, who is now 31years old. Since the moment she graduated high school she has been in a downward spiral. She's never been able to hold a job and support herself financially. My parents have been dishing out money left and right paying for loans, rent, bills, and lawyers fees for her. Over the years I've told them to stop and let her take care of her business and maybe that will force her to take some responsibility, but they refuse because of my sisters daughter. They fear the only one that will suffer is my niece. Just recently my sister lost her job and moved into my parents home. After almost losing custody of my niece to the father she continues to go out all night long with her friends and doesn't come back home to her daughter. My mother was heartbroken to find my 5 year old niece, who set her alarm for the morning, get dressed for school and woke her up to say that she needed someone to walk her to the bus stop because "mommy" still hasn't gotten home. My mother is on the verge of tears everyday as she sees what kind of lifestyle my niece has been in and is overwhlemed with stress from arguing with my sister everyday about everything. What do we need to do to get her to finally grow up and be responsible? My mother can't kick my sister out because she wants to keep my niece there where she knows she'll be looked after properly. Can my mother get custody over her grandchild?
We have many questions about my sisters mental health but she refuses to seek help or doesn't believe us when we tell her she needs it. How can we force her to get help?