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  • Feb 5, 2008, 12:42 PM
    lunabloodmoon
    I cant find my mother.
    I have never seen my real mother. I know she lives somewhere around navada but I don't know anything because my adoptive parents won't tell me anything and it says in the papers that once I turn a certain age Ihave evry right to know this information. I live with my grandmother and great grandmother and dear lord I wish that I could just talk to someone for once who what snap at me for standing wrong or not breathing right...
    My real mother had problems and couldn't care for me at the time... butshe was still allowed to talk to me... but my grandmother broke off all of that.
    Someone please, please help me find her. I can't pay for all this stuff online that doesn't give all the information I need that may not even be the right person to begin with... please someone help me.
  • Feb 5, 2008, 12:54 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    How old are you, it sounds like you are still a young teen ? After you turn 18 you will have more rights to know and to search.

    Why are you not living with your adoptive parents ? Is it because they are trying to place controls on your lifestyle ?

    It is perhaps they want you to be fully grown before you start having contact with someone that has a lot of life issues and problems, so this person will not drag you down to their level.

    Often being protected does not seem like a good thing but as you grow older you will learn to see they were doing what they think is best.
  • Feb 23, 2008, 09:19 PM
    FeelSoNumbZombie
    There are many search and support groups out there related to adoption. Even if you are underage you can still browse. You can ask the adoption agency for your non-id information. Many adoptees change their minds about searching when they get older, and some don't. It is a personal choice and personal journey.
  • Apr 21, 2009, 06:00 AM
    highlinekid
    Please be prepared for the possibility that your birth mother doesn't want to be found. And there may be very good reason why your adoptive parents and family don't want you to find her - she may not be a good person.

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