My names alyssa... and I'm sixteen. Me and my boyfriend have been together now for 4 years. And were in love. I have now become pregnant. And told my mom. She said there was no other option other then not having it. But I don't believe in abortion... what do I do!

Well if you don't believe in abortion all you can do is have it?. Unless you were thinking of some kind of very dangerous forced miscarriage, which would be more inhumane then an abortion.

In the end, you could have it and put it up for adoption if that's what you wish. About your mother, I do not know. I assume her largest concern is that it will be a financial burden to you and to her (mainly). In which case I would propose you offer to pay for the child. Aside from that childbirth and care are very healthy these days and very safe (assuming you've got health insurance!). And no one should "worry" necessarily. However the pregnancy will take over your life and will be VERY intrusive too school and social life.

I personally suggest abortion. But it's not what you want.

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Originally Posted by lissa61791

my names alyssa...and im sixteen. me and my boyfriend have been together now for 4 years. and were in love. i have now become pregnant. and told my mom. she said there was no other option other then not having it. but i dont believe in abortion...what do i do!

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What does your partner say, and what do his family have to say about all this? Have you all sat down together and discussed options? Your boyfriend also has a duty of care towards you, as he's equally responsible for the child. If you don't believe in abortion and feel that you're being pushed into one, yes, it may impact you in your relationships towards your family and your partner for the rest of your days. But if you don't teminate, once you've gone beyond a particular point, there is no going back, and you will never be a child again. While your friends are going out into the world, you won't be able to. The struggle of having to cope with a young, demanding child and trying to complete your schoolwork is beyond belief, and the cost is astronomical. And believe me, with a boy as young as your partner, no matter how much you're in love now, that 'pink tinted spectacles' goes out the window when it comes down to the realities of the situation and the chances are high that two years down the line you'll be the one left holding the baby while he's moved on.

If you do not believe in abortion (which I applaud, I also do not believe in abortion) I suggest that you think about adoption. Your mother can't force you to have an abortion, but it will not be easy to take care of a child at your age without the help of your family. How old is your boy friend? Does he have any kind of a job at all? If there is any way that you can take care of the child, with your families help and can provide for that child financially, physically, emotionally and in every way a baby needs (which is aLOT) then there is possibility of keeping the baby yourselves. But if that is what you chose you have to keep in mind that caring for a baby isn't all fun and games. You'll both have to do a LOT of growing up, take on huge responsibilities and no longer be able to live the relatively carefree life of a teenager. I would say that the best option to you and your child is adoption. You were "responsible" enough to have a sexual relationship with your boy friend and get pregnant, so you need to make sure you be responsible and do what is best for you child.