My boyfriend is very self centered, he is always talking about himself and he doesn't take others feelings into consideration before he says things, sometimes saying hurtful things. I have been dating him for 10 months now, he is 21 I am 27. So there's an age difference too. He is very critical of me too. Always telling me he doesn't agree with the way I parent, that he could do it better and telling me in a nice way that I am lazy and stuff, which in fact I have depression, which lowers my motivation. I think we are not meant for each other but how do I know for sure

If you feel you are taking exception to his criticism, then I don't think you two will last very long unless you can sit down with him and tell him just what it is you don't like him to criticize.

I don't believe a couples are meant for each other or not. Sounds like your boyfriend is a jerk if he says things that hurt your feelings this is not a healthy relationship. Verbal abuse is the blueprint for physical abuse.

My wife would lich me if I pulled that on her... If it feels wrong, it just might be.

If it feels wrong, chances are it's wrong. If he insults you, makes you feel bad, then you should find someone you can be happy with. If you have depression, it is probably making it even worse, and that isn't what you need. I would say, break it off and find someone better than this guy, because it sounds like he doesn't deserve you.

If your love, overrides your common sense, and lets you be verbally abused, then you aren't in love. You just think you are, and use the love as an excuse to not stand up for yourself, and that ain't love, and is so unhealthy.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

If your love, overrides your common sense, and lets you be verbally abused, then you aren't in love. You just think you are, and use the love as an excuse to not stand up for yourself, and that ain't love, and is so unhealthy.

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Exactly! And it only gets worse.

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Originally Posted by sam236

My boyfriend is very self centered, he is always talking about himself and he doesnt take others feelings into consideration before he says things, sometimes saying hurtful things. I have been dating him for 10 months now, he is 21 i am 27. So theres an age difference too. He is very critical of me too. Always telling me he doesnt agree with the way i parent, that he could do it better and and telling me in a nice way that i am lazy and stuff, which infact i have depression, which lowers my motivation. I think we are not meant for eachother but how do i know for sure

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I think deep down he loves you he just wants to try his best
And if he loves you he is always trying to impress xx

Critical isn't impressing. Putting her down is belittling her to impress his own ego.

Without looking at the relationship, I can almost immediately assume that the guy's a bit too immature for you.

Well I think if someone loves you they should treat you with respect not try to discourage you.. You don't need that. I think the longer you stay with him the way he talks you down will only get worse. My advice would be to break it off I went through this myself before.. There are plenty of fish in the sea that can treat you the way you deserve to be treated..

I hope everything works out for you. Keep your head up :)

I suggest you communicate your feelings to him, and let him know his critism of you will not be tolerated, and stick to your guns.

The whole parenting thing that's so out of line and if he's going to critasize anyone on anything he should be doing it to other people not you at all.
It seems to me that he's not helping you he's just hurting you it doesn't seem healthy. Think about if he makes you better then decide what to do

Your boyfriend is a dumb ,how could he treat the women he love like that,there is plenty fish in the sea,get out of that relationship before you get to dip ,you will find someone the is right for you.Good luck

If you look and reread the question you asked, can you honestly say that what you have written looks like love? Love is NONE of those things. And he is way too immature for you.. you deserve so much better and you should tell him to get lost immediately. I know it will be so hard, but once you get past the hard part you will be SO very happy that you did.