Hey me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years maybe a little more. Now I have screwed up more then once (cheated on him) and if I were him I would have left me and never looked back. We have a baby together and he is just like a father to my other daughter. He always talked about us getting married but yet he never proposed I had to propose to him. He never does anything romantic or anything like that for me and the only time he wants to laydown and cuddle with me or anything like that is when he wants to sleep together. He use to be such a sweet guy I mean we were friends for years before we hooked up. I love this man with all my heart but he use to talk about all the sweet things he did for his x's (and they were for worse then I was and did far worse htings) and I thought finally a nice guy and I get nothing. When we were together for a very short time he bought me a ring that was inexpensive but it didn't matter cause he listened to me and knew it was a ring I had wanted for 3 years but sense then I have gotten nothing nice. Not even so much as him leaving me a note on my pillow in the morning before he went to work. I mean that cost nothing but it is nice. So tell me how do I get him to do the nice things for me? How do I get him to love me again after all the horrible things I have done?

I think before you expect things from him how about you clean your own act up.

Why don't you lead the way and do some nice things for him? Maybe he will return the favor. (It sounds like he's being a pretty terrific guy already.)

Don't expect something from the guy. Why do some women go into a relationship like a business proposition i.e. what am I going to get out of it! If you really love him than these things wouldn't matter and you'd just appreciate him for being him. But because you have shagged around he probably doesn't want to do anything for you. Don't expect gold when you treat him the way you do!

You act as if the cheating was justified, and still want things the way they were. First I doubt he feels very romantic with you right now, as you broke his trust, and it will take a long time, if ever, he can forgive you, or trust you. You could have been a lot quicker to talk and listen, to each other, but cheating?? Come on, you don't expect he forget do you? Things will never be as they were, never. Too much history. Start fresh and start clean, if he is willing.

You can never go back to the way it was

Too much damage

Look for a better futuer together
Or not one at all

And cheating well that's just awful