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  • Jan 15, 2006, 09:10 PM
    slapper
    Can a guy use the ladies room?
    In Santa Monica California, if a restaurant has marked ladies and mens rooms may a man use the ladies room if it is not occupied?
  • Jan 15, 2006, 09:15 PM
    lilfyre
    :eek: I don’t think so, you may find you self in a heap of trouble, I may be wrong, but if I walked in the ladies room and you were standing in it, well let just say it would not be nice. And I am by no means a nasty person, but I would be yelling. :eek:
  • Jan 15, 2006, 09:19 PM
    slapper
    It wouldn't be me
    I ask the question because I was waiting for the men's room and a bus boy at a restaurant saw the line and just headed in to the ladies room. I mentioned this to the hostess and she told me she didn't have a problem with it.
  • Jan 15, 2006, 09:24 PM
    lilfyre
    She may have not, but think about it, someone sends their little girl in to use the bathroom and you think no one is in there but they are, what would happen. I don't know what to tell you. I would have been highly upset, and like I said I am not a cranky person but I would taken offence to it.
  • Jan 15, 2006, 09:26 PM
    nymphetamine
    Then she got something wrong with her. That's just rude. I hope someone beat his grapes in. THey oughta take him and tie him up by his feet and spin him around a few times till he gets dizzy and then throw their spiked heels at him.
  • Jan 16, 2006, 06:53 AM
    sideoutshu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by slapper
    I ask the question because I was waiting for the men's room and a bus boy at a restaurant saw the line and just headed in to the ladies room. I mentioned this to the hostess and she told me she didn't have a problem with it.

    The better question is...

    Why would you care? Further, why would go out of your way to get the busboy in trouble?

    I will get around to answering your question as soon as I tackle all of the other ridiculous non-issues in my life such as: how to remove "under god" from the pledge of alligiance; how to remove the nativity scenes in front of churches around Christmas; how to change the name of the Washington Redskins to something more PC.

    PS. If I was the busboy, I would have just cut in front of you, and used the men's room.
  • Jan 16, 2006, 06:56 AM
    sideoutshu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by crankiebabie
    Then she got something wrong with her. Thats just rude. I hope someone beat his grapes in. THey oughta take him and tie him up by his feet and spin him around a few times till he gets dizzy and then throw their spiked heels at him.

    You have obviously never worked in a restaurant. I bet the same people that whine and cry about the busboy using the ladies room would be screaming bloody murder if their food was delayed because their waiter was in the bathroom line for 20 minutes. If there is a closing door, and it is a single occupancy bathroom, there is nothing wrong... much less ILLEGAL... in the busboy using it.
  • Jan 16, 2006, 07:07 AM
    fredg
    Ladies room
    Hi, slapper,
    Usually, there is no state, local, or county ordinances against using one restroom or the other.
    Normally, in an "emergency" situation, have to go now, it's best to ask someone to stand outside the bathroom door, to tell a lady that it's an emergency and a man is in the ladies' room.
    Or, it can work the other way, as I have seen it. I have also stood outside the Mens' Restroom, and told other men that a lady had to use the bathroom, an emergency.
    It's all in how it's handled, not to cause any hard feelings among others.
    I do wish you the best.
  • Jan 16, 2006, 07:12 AM
    DJ 'H'
    I have done it before. There was a huge cue for the ladies toilets and I was dying for the toilet - so I went into the Mens because it was vacent. I had a friend stand at the door until I came out, to make sure no men came in though.
  • Jan 16, 2006, 07:36 AM
    bizygurl
    Oh I have done it before, not in a restaurant or store but at a nightclub plenty of times, Usually there are only two stalls and a huge line waiting for the woman's room where with a guys room its only like three but I don't usually go in by myself I go in with another girl, that mayb e a little dangerous to go in by myself. When you have to go you have to go. If I have to go that bad Im going in where I can, as long as the men don't care and there usually all to happy to let me and a friend in ahead then I don't see a problem. I can't wait in the woman's line for 10 minutes when I have to go that bad.

    Im sure many woman can relate;)
  • Jan 16, 2006, 07:59 AM
    excon
    Different take
    Hello:

    It seems like we've uncovered a double standard, which I'll deal with shortly. However, I think the question is bogus. Personally, I have never seen a line for a men’s room when there is not a longer line for the women’s. That's just me. Maybe in other parts of the country, men pee more than they do here.

    The double standard revealed here, is that it's OK for girls to use the boys, but not OK for the boys to use the girls. At least, I don't have a problem with it. Am I wrong?

    excon
  • Jan 16, 2006, 08:02 AM
    DJ 'H'
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bizygurl
    Oh I have done it before, not in a resturaunt or store but at a nightclub plenty of times, Usually there are only two stalls and a huge line waiting for the woman's room where with a guys room its only like three but I don't usually go in by myself I go in with another girl, that mayb e alittle dangerous to go in by myself. When you have to go you have to go. If I have to go that bad Im going in where I can, as long as the men don't care and there usually all to happy to let me and a friend in ahead then I don't see a problem. I can't wait in the woman's line for 10 minutes when i have to go that bad.

    Im sure many woman can relate;)

    Most certainly. I have done it in both night clubs and a leisure centre. I always asked at both - they never have a problem with it as long as you ask and they are vacent. Always help if a mte stand at the door for you lol
  • Jan 16, 2006, 08:10 AM
    nymphetamine
    No Ive never been a busgirl but I have worked in a restaurant. Its one thing when the bathroom for your gender is too occupied and so you have to make sure the other genders bathroom is clear before you use it. Yes I can understand that because I have had to do the same but I did not just barge in while some poor man was standing at the urinal with his johnson hanging out of his pants. The way it was said in the first post was he just barged in there. Um I'm sure that you maybe unaware but there are things that go on in a woman's restroom that are not meant to be seen by the eyes of men and if you go waltzing in with out warning you may get an eye full of something you really don't want to. So its best to give warning.
  • Jan 16, 2006, 08:12 AM
    bizygurl
    I agree DJ'H I think regardless of gender when you got to go, you got to go, regardless of gender. If Im at a club and a guy needs to use the woman's bathroom because of a huge line to the guys room I don't see a problem with it as but you are always going to get other woman who are'nt happy with it because they may seem uncomfortable in that sense its how you personally feel about it.

    But if there wasn't a line to a mens room and a guy wanted to use the woman's, that's when I would be a little suspicious..
  • Jan 16, 2006, 08:17 AM
    sideoutshu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by crankiebabie
    No Ive never been a busgirl but I have worked in a restuarant. Its one thing when the bathroom for your gender is too occupied and so you have to make sure the other genders bathroom is clear before you use it. Yes I can understand that because I have had to do the same but I did not just barge in while some poor man was standing at the urinal with his johnson hanging out of his pants. The way it was said in the first post was he just barged in there. Um im sure that you maybe unaware but there are things that go on in a womans restroom that are not meant to be seen by the eyes of men and if you go waltzing in with out warning you may get an eye full of something you really dont want to. So its best to give warning.

    The original post said nothing about "barging in". It said he "headed into" the ladies room. My comments were based on the assumption that we were dealing with two single toilet bathrooms based upon the fact that it was a restaurant with a line for the mens room. The only way that is going to happen is a door being locked or it being the largest restaurant on the planet.
  • Jan 16, 2006, 08:22 AM
    nymphetamine
    Well it didn't exactly use the words "barged" in but it didn't say he checked to make sure no women were in there either. Of course I was thinking of the bigger bathrooms not the single toilet ones. Yeah I hate that. Why in the world do they only have one toilet for each gender to use is stupid in my book.
  • Jan 16, 2006, 08:26 AM
    NeedKarma
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by crankiebabie
    Um im sure that you maybe unaware but there are things that go on in a womans restroom that are not meant to be seen by the eyes of men and if you go waltzing in with out warning you may get an eye full of something you really dont want to. So its best to give warning.

    Like what for example? You each have your own individual stalls.
  • Jan 16, 2006, 08:26 AM
    excon
    Hello crankie, and the rest:

    Now, I’m curious. They DO have stalls with doors in the ladies room, don’t they? I would hope that those little things women do that would turn a man to stone if he saw them, occurs behind those little stall doors.

    But tell me, what could you be doing, that would be so ghastly OUTSIDE those doors? Or is this a secret only known by women?

    excon
  • Jan 16, 2006, 08:36 AM
    bizygurl
    :confused: Umm the only thing I could think of that most men wouldn't want want to see a woman doing in a bathroom, would either be going number two or changing a pad and or a tampon. And of my 27 years on this earth I have never seen that done in the open obviuosly with going number 2. Whenever I have ever had to do any of these things it has always been in a stall without the public view.

    But never mind men, if I walked into a woman's room and someone was casually changing a tampon or pad right out in the open in front of everyone I would probably turn around and walk out. Tha's a little gross. I mean all woman go through the same thing but if your having an emergency and can't do it in a stall, then do it in privacy.
    That is the only thing I can think of unless there is something else that Im not aware of.
  • Jan 16, 2006, 08:41 AM
    nymphetamine
    Excon, there are stalls for those things yes but I have walked in and seen other women doing things out in the open like using the hand dryer to dry their clothes with their skirt all up in their face. There are women in there that have no dignity at all and will dress outside the stalls boobs popping out and all. I wonder has any of you ever had the problem of people that stand right up on your stall and feel they have to watch you take a danged pee? This other woman did this to me once when I was a mcdonalds she stood there staring at me through that little space in the door. I was like " take a picture honey itll last longer."

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