OK so I give a lot of advise on these forums but that doesn't mean that I don't have problems too... how else can you give advise unless you have been through some things in your life. I have been with a guy for 4 years. We got married last year valentines day and we have a new baby together as well as a child from my previous rship. I am insecure for many unforseen reasons by others. I came home early one night from work because I had training I came into the house and the chain was on the door. Right then the alrm in my head went off. I reached up and took the chain off the door. Well my husband meets me at the door and tells me he has something to show me outside. I played it off because I knew something was up and I told him that I wasn't in the mood. He begged me to go outside with him but I didn't so I went in the bedroom and right of bat he started guarding the closet so I knew that there was someone in my house. I was home for and hour just to see how long it would take him to fess up before I moved him front of the closet and found another woman hiding in there. Both of my kids were awake at the time so I told her to get the hell out of my house.she left quietly and he kept telling me that there was nothing going on she was just a friend from high school and she came by to see the kids its nothing its nothing. So I asked him why she was hiding in the closet then and he says to me that he knew I would overreact. So I ask him why didn't he call me at work to tell me that she was coming by or why didn't his common sense tell him to tell her that heh it 1045 at night my wife might flip if she comes home and sees you here. He says to me should have and that he's sorry. He keeps apologizing to me and telling me that he messed up but nothing was going on. He's begs me to stay with him saying that he needs his family and he needs me. Should I believe him