Dear Members,

I would like to seed for advice. What should I do? I meat a girl in the internet. We starting to be friend for the past 4 months. Ever since I know her she keep telling me about her problems with her families and keep mentioned that she has an complecated relations. Days goes each time I message her I will advice her what best for the issues that she asked. Reasently I buy an handphone and starting to smsing her.. well its every night and we become more friendly.. up until 29 jan 2008, she told me about her boyfriend and their problems. That make me so sad and I just tell her that I will be leaving for a long time and may not essaging her any more. She cried and feel sad as the told me that she will feel lonely and will miss me if I'm not around. That why she smsing me everyday day or night. Yes I'm also start to have feeling toward her.. but I don't want to spoiled their relationship. Friends, please advice me what should I do since I can't be her special friend anymore due to she is having her own boyfriend in which she should relay on. Please help me. Am I Confuse or am I in love with her..

You're a very smart man. :)

She has a boyfriend and she is telling you she is going to be lonely if you leave.

Well it does sound like she has some feelings for you. Treat her friendly and kindly
And if and when she leaves her boyfriend then you can make a move :)

But don't get to into her. Because oneday she could just stop and try and make htings work out with her boyfriend

It's a hard game to play


Good luck

Regards

I think you are attached to her, after sharing so much, but she sees you as a girlfriend, that she can confide in, and talk to about anything. Back off to a healthy distance.

You are her intellectual whore. If you are confused, and you don't want to be anymore, read this:

The Ladder Theory

Why pursue someone you know who already has a boyfriend? Back off... Be a friend. If you don't want to spoil their relationship, leave her and tend to your brokenheart and move on.

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Originally Posted by TrueFaith

Your a very smart man. :)

she has a boyfriend and she is telling you she is going to be lonley if you leave.

well it does sound like she has some feelings for you. treat her friendly and kindly
and if and when she leaves her boyfriend then you can make a move :)

but dont get to into her. because oneday she could just stop and try and make htings work out with her boyfriend

its a hard game to play


Good luck

Regards

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Dear Friend,

Thank you for your advice. I have tried to avoid her but yet she still smsing me and begging me not to leave her as such now she treat me as her special male friend. I feel guilt to my sell as I know this is wrong. I don't think that I will be able to be her next boyreiend since she had a lot of male friends . So I'l think that I just act normal and try to reduce my conversation with her..