I met and fell in love with him about 7 months ago. I knew right after meeting him that he was going to be leaving at the beginning of October to the States (I'm from Canada) for 6 months to do a job. At the time, I was obviously cool with it, because you just think "who knows what can happen."

I fell harder then I ever thought I would, especially because in the beginning I wasn't sure about him. He turned out to be one of the most amazing people I have ever met. If you were to write him down on a piece of paper, you might ask what's so special, but it was the little things he did for me.

During the time of our relationship I was going through a difficult time with self-esteem and believing in myself, but he encouraged me every step of the way and was always there for me, something I don't think he'll ever realize how much I appreciated it and always will. It's very difficult to express why I love him so much, you would have to know me very well and know him very well to understand.

Anyway, he ended up leaving and we decided to try and stay together. We figured that we should try, because again, you never know! About a week after he left, we both realized that the long distance was not going to work. It was hard because we both loved each other so much, but we both knew that it was the right thing to do at that point.

Something also came up, I ended up getting pregnant (something that was a pure accident). I also decided not to keep it, because with him away and me a full time student, I was not ready to ruin both of our lives. And even knowing that he would have dropped everything to come back home, I didn't want to ruin his job and that great opportunity.

I ended up going to visit him in mid November for a week. It was a great visit, except for the fact that I got really upset one night, just about everything. I think that made us both realize that we weren't ready to be friends, there was still too much attachment, so we both decided to cut communication for a while.

A week after I left, it was my 20th birthday and I got super hammered. I also thought it would be a good idea to phone him. That night I found out he was dating someone new and the conversation didn't end well. I got mad and I started blaming him for basically everything, something that I will regret forever. But it happened and it pushed him away. He refused to talk to me, and I continuously thought it was a good idea to text him. I wouldn't send him any desperate text messages, they would just be like "hi, how are you?" or "do you hate me?"... but nothing too whiny or anything. Although I wish I had never sent him anything, it happened and I'm dealing with it. He finally responded a couple of weeks ago, letting me know that he had moved on and he has a new girlfriend now.

This has all been so screwed up, but it's made me realize my mistakes, his mistakes and it's made me re-evaluate myself as a person. It help me to focus on me for a change and it really is paying off. My confidence is finally improving, and I'm starting to believe in myself and be positive.

Anyway, back to him. I knew that it was smart of him to cut off communication completely, because I think we both realized in the process that talking to him was not doing me any good. I was going through a lot of emotional issues, but I was using him to lean on and in the process I was blaming him for things he had no control over and for things he didn't even do.

But after realizing all of this, and knowing that he has a new girlfriend, I'm still really in love with him. A part of me feels as though we're not done. I don't think anything will happen in the near future, but I just don't feel it was supposed to end this way. Plus, he should be home in about 2 or 3 months, so I guess I ask the question, how will him and his girlfriend stay together? Will she move here? Will he move there? I can't see that happening, because he loves it here and loves his family and friends. I don't know anymore. Maybe I'm living in a fantasy world, but my intuition is telling me that I'm right about this, and that we're not finished.

Anyway, my question is am I crazy for thinking that? I know we can't help the way we feel, but some days I feel as though there is something wrong with me, because it's so difficult to let go completely. I guess I don't want to, because I do have a feeling that something might happen down the road? I don't know. But I also am not putting my life on hold... I'm not opposed to any new relationships, I just haven't met anyone worth pursuing.. all I want is him.

Someone please give me some advice, and I can't guarantee that I'm going to agree, but an opinion of some kind would be nice. I just feel I've talked about it to death with my friends and I really don't feel they understand, and I just end up getting frustrated with them (but I do realize that they just want the best for me).. anyway I guess maybe a 3rd party who has no connection might be able to give some thought...
Anything... : )... even criticism, bring it on people! Haha

Hey there

Well the good news is at least you got rid of the baby. That would have made your life a lot harder so well done you :)

as for you X. Im probable going to stay what your family and friends say to you..

well sadly he has moved on and there's not much you can do about it
don't put your life on hold waiting around for him. He didn't do that for

the first fight you get into he goes away and finds someone else? Come on. Move on
you'll only hurt yourself if you stay waiting for something that may or may not ever happen

When people leave we all put them up on this huge tower like there the best and all that. But normaly its crap there falws out number most things

regards

I copied and paste a small portion of a writing I stumbled upon in the net. I hope it would enlighten you a bit.

"...Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life - the gift of love will come to you in full flower. Take hold of it and celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty. This is the dream we all share. More often, it will come and take hold of you, celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on.

They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other person no longer love them, or try to get their love to change,
thinking that if some small things were different, love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away and start a new life, their love will grow.

They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery..."

You can read the whole thing here:
Falling in Love

You will accept its over, and in time it will be easier to move on, with your life, if you don't contact each other.

It will be better for you in the long run if you leave him alone. He has moved on and told you so. It is time you do the same.

He moved on, with someone else, and didn't tell you about it. He doesn't sound that amazing to me. Any decent guy would be upfront and honest about it BEFORE it happened, not during/after it happened.

Aside from that, you're worried too much about what he's going to do and what she's going to do... what about yourself? What year of college are you in? How are your grades? How is your relationship with your family? Friends? You need to concentrate on yourself.

There's not really one simple thing you can do to get him back. But if you want to take the best shot, you got to work on yourself first. And if you ignore him when he returns, he will wonder how you can possibly stay away from him, and HE will call YOU first. Then and only then will you have a shot. But none of that can be obtained until you take care of yourself first. That's the first step, so get a move on!