So it's been almost a full month since the split. I am still thinking of him obsessively... is it getting better? I think MAYBE sometimes...

I still have the urge to contact... When does that go away?

I am keeping busy with friends and even kind of seeing someone new... (not the same... )

Still wonder about him a lot... Just wishing I wouldn't feel any pain anymore.

We were together (on and off) for a year and a half... What's the timeline for moving on?!

And why do I still miss something that wasn't working for me?

Time, and staying busy will help, and a month is obviously not enough. As we are all different, the timeline can be anywhere from a day, to a decade.

It will get better. Please don't worry. The time line for moving on is always different for everyone.

You miss your relationship because you gave so much of yourself. You poured your heart and soul into another person, gave him a part of yourself, dreamed with him, and shared your secret wishes. That is an intense thing... and something that takes a while to heal. He will always have a portion of your heart, but as will you. You will always have that part of him that made you love him. And that is precious.

You will make it. Someday soon you'll realize that you're not thinking of him as much... that you're able to get through your day without remembering... that you're going to be fine.

Its good that you're staying busy, hon, but don't forget to take time alone with yourself. Make sure you don't push the feelings down and try and cover up your heart... its OK to feel this way. We all go through it. And, we conquer it... WE ARE THE CHAMPIONS! (sorry, my Queen folder on itunes was just on... lol)

You're doing great. You're surviving. You're moving forward into that glorious future that you have yet to experience.

Keep your chin up, hon. :)

Its tough you'll get there. There is no time frame sadly
But you don't see like someone that wants to feel like this forever

So you probable won't you'll move on

But you will never forget. It just won't hurt :)


Regards

One month may have felt forever but soon you will be healed and look at the past with a smile. It's a live and learn experience. You will be more mature this time and be thankful for what you have learned through it.

It seems you're doing what's best to keep yourself occupied, keep doing that. Don't call him or make any contact, believe me after a month or two, you'll feel so good about your self-control that taking your mind off him is a piece of cake.

Thank you for your answers...

I know I will be OK (eventually... ) although sometimes it just feels like I won't.

I appreciate the comment about my self-control... but I constantly wonder about his... Why is he not calling me? Does he not see what he is missing? I just don't get it.

Timelines are different for everyone. Ive gone from less than 2 days to more than 4 months. It varies by person, relationship, attitude, experiene, etc. Too many variables to mention.

You need to seek other men. More dating. Or more focus on your work. Stop waiting for him to call, because even if he does, it probably won't change the way things will be in the future. You get back together, same things happen, and you'd be here all over again 1-2 years from now.

Use these 1-2 years INSTEAD, on yourself and your next man, who could be "the one". He's waiting for you. Go.

Hey EuRa/Mike...

Thanks for your answer (again... )

I know what you are saying is true... that if this were to continue, I will be back in a heartbreak situation yet again with this guy.

I need to stop worrying about what he is thinking through all of this. I have heard that he is still looking pretty miserable... and that helps some. But obviously not miserable enough to fix it.

I can't believe how hard it is... I can't believe I miss things so much... (he really wasn't all that great... neither was the relationship.) But I don't think he could say the same... I was a really great girl to him... (he said it all the time... )

What is he doing? How is it over for him? What an idiot.