Um 19 years old girl... me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years... n nw v decided to get merry in this year... but the problem is that smtimes I used fyl that he is not trusting me... he is doing such things like asking my password of my mail id and he used get angry if I talk a friend (boy) of mine whome he doesn't know... so nw um in a delimer that wheather I have to merry him nw o still we have to wait... so I just want you guys idea...

Check this: "Pre-marital counseling is a really good idea as it helps you to work through all these issues in a logical and thorough way - yeah, it takes some time and dedication, but isn't making sure your marriage has the best chance of survival worth that sacrifice? Aren't the children you may have deserving of the best chance you can give them of having an intact and happy family that's prepared for what life can throw at them?" See more: How to Know The Right Age to Get Married

If he has issues now, then it will be worse after you get married. I'd wait until you both can work together, to solve those issues, and communicate a lot better.

I agree. Give it some time and go to counseling together. It is better to resolve the issues before you get married. Anytime you aren't sure means that it isn't the time to get married. Just wait a while and give the counseling a shot.

I would not consider marriage until I knew how to spell it.

Oh, spelling isn't everything. It is important to some of us though. The most important thing I read here is that if it doesn't feel right, don't do it.

Trust your feelings, they are the language of your soul. If something he's doing is feels weird or creepy to you. Marriage will not fix that. Marriage will make it worse, and then you will be married to someone who feels creepy and weird. No, work it out now. If it can't be solved, move on to someone new.

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Originally Posted by simoneaugie

Oh, spelling isn't everything. It is important to some of us though. The most important thing I read here is that if it doesn't feel right, don't do it.

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Simon,
I agree that spelling is generally not that important. And that feeling right about it is much more important. But poor spelling can also be a symptom that indicates other problems. It can point to a lack of maturity or even intelligence that says the person is not ready for marriage. I believe that's true in this case.

Scott,
Good point. Maybe I'm too careful of speaking straight from my feelings!
Simone