I am currently in a drug treatment (out patient) program. My wife is in prison for parole violation. Our son (born 12/01/07), was taken by the state. I am trying to get him back. The mother, my wife, has lost other children to the state and lost her parental rights to them. I have a chance of getting him back as long as I keep doing what I am doing. I want my wife back and our family together. But being with my wife may hurt my chances of getting my son. I think it is unfair that I may have to choose between them. Altimately, I would choose my son. But I don't want to have to make that choice. What do you think my chances are at keeping my son if we stay together? She gets out March 12, 2008 and is paroling to me. She is going to classes in prison, Parenting, substance abuse, AA, etc. They took him for drug abuse while she was pregnant. And how do I explain it to her? I don't want to hurt her anymore than she already is hurt.

Looks like you are on the right track. I suggest you find a good church family. Many of the people love to help people in your situstion. It would also be a good place to find help in the court system (personal references). Also, turning your life into Christ's hands would not be bad either. Look for a Pentecostal Holiness Church. They are always ready to help in any circumstance.

Yes, sometimes it is a hard choice, but remember if there is a reason she can not be able to keep her children it is also a reason that perhaps you really don't need to be with her either.

And you explain to her that she has to earn it all back, that she will have to live and do it clean and follow all sorts of rules for a long time before you can even start to see her again, It is hard and tough, but you often have to do what is right for your life and your child's life. Only she can change her.

My opinion is that you take the high road and let the baby go to be adopted by a mature, loving couple. Why pass your misery to another generation? Let the baby have a chance at happiness. :)


Best wishes,