Hi

Been with my boyfriend for 10 months.. its so frustrating.. he goes out whenever he wants and doesn't even tell me till he's already there. I constantly call him.. he complains I call too much.. but if I wait he will never call till 3 .4 hrs. I'm so tired of dealing with him.. sometimes when he doesn't call and I don't know where he is.. I can't even eat. When I had school I dropped 2 class and got an F in one because we were constantly arguing and I couldn't even concentrate in school.I feel like I'm the only one in the relationship trying.. and I'm getting so sick and tired of it... its a new year and I kept telling myself drop him now he's only hurting and stressing me out.. while he doesn't have a care in the world. What should I do.. im hurting so much.And the weird part is.. when we just met he was the one after me for 6 months.. when I didn't even care about him like that... and now it's the other way around.. WHY DOES THAT HAPPPPPPEN ? ;[

Relationships are about communication and both parties giving. I would suggest you have a good talk to him and voice your concerns , he may then realise he has to GIVE as well. If he isn't willing to do that you will know he is not for you.

I just experienced the same thing as you. He was the one who wanted the relationship to work even though it was long distance. I gave him a chance, but I saw how we weren't communicating in the way that I needed him to. And in some odd way, I found myself giving more and caring more about the relationship than he did. Friend4u178 is right. You should make one last attempt to get through to him and tell him his action/inaction makes you unhappy.

If nothing changes, let him go and move on (as harsh as it sounds). I told my ex what bothering me (neglect/bad communication), he said he would change, and he didn't, at least not for long. We broke up, needless to say. I'm sorry to say this, but it may be time for you to break up with him, too.

From my experience in life he s not on the same page as you and if he is, he s out there looking for something that's not there, my advice is leave while u can focus on yourself and if it was meant to be later on you will meet again

It sounds to me like you're a very needy, clingy girlfriend. And that's a #1 relationship killer. Back off and take some space for yourself and let him have his space too. When in a relationship it's also important that each of you have lives of your own. It's a shame that you let yourself get so far as to drop 2 classes and get and F in one, all over him. That's not healthy. You should be able to pursue your goals and education without any consideration given to him. You can continue on in your relationship with him but also have time for yourself and allow him to do the same.

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Originally Posted by dana21

hi

Been with my bf for 10 months.. its so frustrating ..he goes out whenever he wants and doesnt even tell me till hes already there. I constantly call him..he complains i call to much..but if i wait he will never call till 3 .4 hrs. I'm so tired of dealing with him..sometimes when he doesnt call and i dont know where he is..i can't even eat. When i had school i dropped 2 class and got an F in one becuz we were constantly arguing and i couldnt even concentrate in school.I feel like im the only one in the relationship trying..and im getting so sick and tired of it...its a new year and i kept telling myself drop him now hes only hurting and stressing me out..while he doesnt have a care in the world. What should i do..im hurting so much.And the weird part is..when we just met he was the one after me for 6 months..when i didnt even care about him like that ...and now its the other way around..WHY DOES THAT HAPPPPPPEN ? ;[

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Drop him. He's not worth it.

You have issues that have nothing to do with him. Your trying to make him be someone he isn't because that's what you want. Until you accept him for who and what he is, you can never be happy with him. Sorry, but your expectations for him are much to high, and you need to find someone you are more compatible with. I will admit, I cheated, and read ALL your other posts.

this happened to me 2yrs ago. I'm 19 been with my boyfriend for 4 years (live together, engaged)
I would call him because I was worried about him he never wanted to talk to me. In the end I told him that if he could talk to me there was not point being together... he starts crying and tells me he has a lot on his mind... gets me even more pissed off. Turns out his dad as a terminal illness that's why he's been so in his shell. His dad died last year and I comforted him through it all. Now and again he gets low but we have some great friends and family that he chats to.

I know its prob winding you up it did me too... but I felt like a complete after what I said so just try and talk to him about how you feel calmly and maybe he will be ready to give answers x good luck x