Ask Me Help Desk - My past is catching up to me.

My past is catching up to me.

November 2003 (New Jersey)
I was 23 yrs old, convicted of receiving stolen property, sentence was time served 99 days in jail, 2 yrs probation.

April 2004
Transferred probation to Pennsylvania.

August 2004 (Pennsylvania)
Stole a credit card, ran up roughly $1,000 in charges. Got a tip the cops where looking for me so I borrowed a friend’s car only to drive it to California, not return it and ditch it.

July 2007 (California)
Receive an email from the detective from Pennsylvania regarding warrants: I have two active warrants for your arrest. If you would like to attempt to resolve these warrants you can contact me. Otherwise you can fear getting stopped by the police and them discovering your warrant on NCIC. The first involves use of a stolen credit card. The second involves unauthorized use of a Motor Vehicle. The severity of the charges is mostly misdemeanors. There are a few felonies for the unlawful use of a credit card. Up to this point I have never answered to these charges.

In the last 4 yrs since I have been “hiding out” I have been a model citizen. I live with my girlfriend in a beautiful condo on the bay. She knows everything and is urging me to clean this up. Her father is ironically a criminal defense lawyer, who I definitely am too ashamed to tell. I work for a Government contractor and my friends consist of FBI and DEA agents, whom obviously have no idea. I am tired of looking over my shoulder and these are serious offenses I am looking at. I am scarred to death to deal with them and I am a completely different person from that 23 yr old guy. I am now looking at those two warrants and probably a third for violation of probation. I know if I was caught I would be dealing with extradition and all sorts of other fun things. I have so many people that depend on me now but I cannot move any further until I clean this up. In a weird way living in fear the last 4 yrs has kept me straight. What do I do?

Dude, that's a tough one.

Please, don't just take someone's advice from this place, talk to an attorney, get some idea from his legal expertise as to what you could be facing and what options you may have.

Talk to the girfriends father as soon as possible. He is your BEST BET to help you (if he likes you). You are living in fear and that is not fun. Having to look over your shoulder can be a real drag as I am sure you have found out. You must take action now before everything you love disappears down the toilet.

What I don't understand is just how the detective in Penna got your email address to send this to in the first place?

I know it sounds hard, but I think it's time you face your past head on and stop trying to outrun it. The sooner the better. You'll find out who your real friends are.
But YES, get an attorney.

I have a really good relationship with my girlfriends father, that's why I am ashamed and afraid to dissapoint him.

But, I'm sure he would be glad that you trusted him enough to be honest. If you get arrested, he will find out anyway. So, maybe if you go to him and lay it all out on the table, he would want to help, especially since you do have a good relationship.

I think talking to a lawyer first is your best bet.

My God That is sad.

Tell The old man ( her father ) in the same way you told your story here. IF YOU ARE NOT THAT GUY any more he will respect you for standing up and facing it. ( that is if you have some kind of relationship ) explain that you have so many to help now, that you need to clear this up for them too. That is why you thought he would be the best one to talk to. If your girlfriend knows everything than she would have some idea of how her father would react to it. What kind of man is he ?
WHY IS A DETECTIVE EMAILING that sounds weird. Are you shore he is a detective and not someone tryen to freak you out? Then that doesn't matter tell buddy and stand up and get this dealt with you will sleep better and my guess so will your misses.
Good luck and keep it straight and narrow K. Have fun but keep it clean!!
Sorry missed the post about your relationship with the father! TELL HIM HE WILL HELP YOU HE KNOWS YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE NOW NOT WHO YOU WERE> SIT HIM DOWN TELL HIM YOU ARE SCARED TO DISAPPOINT HIM THAT THIS IS SO HUMILIATING> THAT YOU NEED HIS SUPPORT> THAT YOU DO NOT KNOW WHERE TO TURN>
I would say that he is in your life for a reason maybe you are being reworded for being the person you are today!!

They had my email from years ago.

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Originally Posted by bdg6

I have a really good relationship with my girlfriends father, that's why I am ashamed and afraid to dissapoint him.

Ha! Just wait till you have to ask him for bail money

Dude,
Money is not the issue...

This is serious to your girlfriend, you and her father go and talk to him together draw strength from each other. Like I said he is in your life for some reason. IT Won't BE AS BAD AS YOU THINK IT WILL BE, REALLY> what kind of person is he. RIGID< KIND<UNDERSTANDING<FUNNY<UPTIGHT<PERSONALITY is important. DON'T SIT BACK ANY MORE K

Have the criminal defense attorney, arrange for you to turn yourself in, and already have bail arranged so you merely apper and will be released on bail.

And then you hope most of the evidence has been lost over the time, hope that witnesses won't come to court and that a good attorney can work out a real good deal.

I hope you paid your friend back for the car, that will help a lot.

The Real Good Attorney Is Her Father Ask Him!!
DID YOU PAY YOUR FRIEND FOR THE CAR OR AT LEAST SOMETHING!

Honey, having the same email address for that many years make absolutely no sense to me. What were you thinking??

BUT, tell the gf's father and he can certainly make all the arrangements. Don't delay. Do it soon.

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Originally Posted by fde

My God That is sad.

Tell The old man ( her father ) in the same way you told your story here. IF YOU ARE NOT THAT GUY any more he will respect you for standing up and facing it. ( that is if you have some kind of relationship ) explain that you have so many to help now, that you need to clear this up for them too. That is why you thought he would be the best one to talk to. If your girlfriend knows everything than she would have some idea of how her father would react to it. What kind of man is he ?
WHY IS A DETECTIVE EMAILING that sounds weird. Are you shore he is a detective and not someone tryen to freak you out? Then that doesn't matter tell buddy and stand up and get this dealt with you will sleep better and my guess so will your misses.
Good luck and keep it straight and narrow K. Have fun but keep it clean!!!!!!
Sorry missed the post about your relationship with the father! TELL HIM HE WILL HELP YOU HE KNOWS YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE NOW NOT WHO YOU WERE> SIT HIM DOWN TELL HIM YOU ARE SCARED TO DISAPPOINT HIM THAT THIS IS SO HUMILIATING> THAT YOU NEED HIS SUPPORT> THAT YOU DO NOT KNOW WHERE TO TURN>
I would say that he is in your life for a reason maybe you are being reworded for being the person you are today!!!!!!!

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Blucky Are You High Sweetie You Are Making No Sense.
I Agree Twinkiedooter That Is A Really Long Time To Have An Email Address.

Keep Us Informed On What Happens With All Of This. May The Force Be With You.

I DID NOT NEED A SPELLING TEST . HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH INTELLEGENCE. I AM TRYING TO GIVE ADVISE TO THIS GOOD PERSON WHO HAS ASKED FOR HELP.

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Originally Posted by bdg6

Dude,
Money is not the issue...

You missed my point...
Given the choice to be disappointed by you, I think he would prefer to hear about your past from you and not from the police or the newspaper.

Hello:

You need a criminal attorney IN NJ, not California. The Padre is right. He can arrange for you to turn yourself in and have bail posted so that it's only an appearance. You actually won't be put in a cell. Then you can go back to Ca. and let your lawyer work on your case.

Are you going to have to do some time?? With a GOOD lawyer and a pocket full of money, I don't think so.

excon

PS> Would I involve my girlfriends father? ABSOLUTELY NOT - NEVER - NO HOW - DON'T DO IT!!