I have a friend who is really sensitive. Once, I was terrified to see him cut his wrist for a girl whom he loves too much which I didn't know. Later , he said that she is none other than my girlfriend, I'm now in panick? Lose my girlfriend or my friend? Help me?

Wait your friend cut his wrist because he is in love with your GF? Not sure what you are asking.

Let me explain! My friend was in love wt some one whom I don't know, later I learnt that its my lover with whom I'm in rationship now, he, being understood that she's not going to respond,cut his wrist, 2 kill himslef.

No it would be senseless to give up your girlfriend over this.
If she has no interest in him anyway nothing would change.
Besides no girl, or guy, should feel guilted into a relationship because someone will harm theirself if they don't.
That is no basis for a relationship.
There has to be another way to work this out. He needs a good counselor and
He needs to realize that people go through disappointments and need to learn and grow
Through them.
Be there for him and encourage him to find help.

Your friend is being very selfish, he is blackmailing you emotionally. Your safety ,and your girlfriends', is at risk. If he is unstable enough to threaten his own life just because he can't have what he wants, he might take out his anger on you (plural)

Yep! Thanks, ill see if I can get my friend a good counsiling,

Friends don't usually do that too each other And You should really talk to him about it
And get him help If he's your best friend and cares about you He will really Understand
But don't just give up the girl Maybe All of you should talk together about it and help the
Fellow out Maybe Even find him a girl to date? What ever you do don't Drop them Because you care about them both

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Originally Posted by PopcornSunshineKisses

Friends dont usally do that too eachother And You should really talk to him about it
and get him help If hes your best friend and cares about you He will really Understand
But dont just give up the girl Maybe All of you should talk together about it and help the
fellow out Maybe Even find him a girl to date? What ever you do dont Drop them Because you care about them both

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That sounds reasanable, yep! I did talk with him before about this but he's a bit stebborn and seem to be greatly distrubed, I told him to concentrate on his carrer, which is imp of all other and the girl would go where ever she likes, more over I didn't want to give her pain on this issue, she is kind enough to come and taqlk to him too

Kick them both to da curb.

I don't agree with kicking them to the curb. The girl had nothing to do with it. The friend must be an only child or was a favorite, because he is acting very spoiled. But I agree with having him go see a counsoler. But if you do want to sit down with him, be gentle. People do tend to become deffensive when confronted about their issues. Once he becomes deffensive, he'll get offensive,and then getting through to him will become more difficult.

To be sensible, kicking them to the curb would be unreasonable but maybe you don't have to lose either of them. Breaking up wiwth your girlfriend would only hurt you and her feelings, doing so could also hurt your friend because he would get the sense of rejection all over again. Maybe you should have someone else intervine to save his life,

Hm... idk about the helping find your friend a girlfriend part just yet. Sounds like he's got some baggage he'd better take care of first. I woudn't recommend him dating anyone until he's in a healthier place. But I agree, you shouldn't have to give up your girlfriend because of his issues.

Hey, I didn't exactly mean to find him a girlfriend. But you should still help him. My best advice is to find him some type of councillor or something to get him back on his feet. When I was younger, I was depressed too. I didn't feel like I had anyone there to help me but I could never bring myself to cutting so I had rubberbands. THey are less destructive but still aren't healthy. You should be there for him because if your not and he doesn't feel like he has any support, he'll fall off the wagon and never get back on.

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Originally Posted by godsbabygirl267

Hey, i didnt exactly mean to find him a girlfriend. But you should still help him. My best advice is to find him some type of councillor or something to get him back on his feet. When i was younger, i was depressed too. I didnt feel like i had anyone there to help me but i could never bring myself to cutting so i had rubberbands. THey are less destructive but still arent healthy. You should be there for him because if your not and he doesnt feel like he has any support, he'll fall off the wagon and never get back on.

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Exactly.
I was referring to someone else previously that said to help find him a girlfriend.
But it is true he needs help and support first. As I said in my original reply for him to give up his girlfriend is not the answer. And his friend shouldn't be abandoned either.

I think your friend needs more help than you can give, but you shouldn't let him blackmail you into doing what he wants either. No way can you expect to stay friends with an unreasonable disturbed person, and not be sucked into his problems, that create even more problems, in your own life.

You don't have to lose either. Have your girlfriend talk to him. Just let them sit and talk for awhile and have her ease into the subject and explain that she has no interest in him. Then you can both talk to him and help him through this. Introduce him to other girls. He'll probably feel like its betraying your girlfriend but you just have to tell him its not. I know the feeling except in the opposite (im a girl). All 3 of you just need to talk. It really does help even if it doesn't seem like it at first. I no how your friend feels because well... if go look at my question "How do you tell if a guy likes you?" then you'll see. You have a strong bond with both and I know for a fact that you would be hurt losing either of them. So you just have to talk and help him through this difficult situation and things will get better. But remember... things get worse before they get better... so give it time. If you need more help just email: [email protected]