My wife has been meeting a male friend on sundays without me know. I fellow her and confronted the two and both answered with "we are just friends". I think it is cheating but she say it not because they are just friends. What do you think?

Hm... if they are friends, then why hide it?

When you followed them, what were they doing?

It's possible that she hid a male friend for fear of you getting jealous... are you a jealous person? Would you have understood if she simply said, I'M GOING TO MEET A GUY FRIEND?

cmr, your woman may think you are unnaproachable about this situation. Or she may be cheating, or she may no longer find you exciting. It's a real toss up man.

In this situation, I recommend a few things. For one, don't become unapproachable and stay tame about the subject. For 2, I would recommend counseling immediately if you are having trust issues. She may not be trustworthy, or she might be. Either way she is lying to you.

This happens because there is some sort of deficit in the relationship. She cares about you and doesn't want to hurt you, but she's doing this to fill some kind of need in her life. Find out what that is. She's probably not guilty about what she's doing so don't try to make her think she is. She has to come to that on her own.

If you want this to work, seek counseling, and don't let your anger show. It's allright to be dissapointed, or angry, and it's OK to let her know. These things all have to happen. However, I would keep calm, and talk candidly about it.

Hope it helps.

Nick

You have to have trust be cause if there no trust there no love but if she doing it sneeke then there mite be something going on

If I was meeting someone without telling my husband, he would walk out the door and he would never look back. It is not the act itself; it is the lie; the hiding.