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I wanted to invite this guy I like over to my house tonight ,but my parents aren't home.
I was going to do it anyway but he is 20 and I am 15. (going on 16)
I was afraid we would get a little close:rolleyes: lol and I wouldn't know how to stop it.
So should I suck it up and tell him to come over anyway. Or just play it cool and wait for another time when my parents are home?
Confussed
Just wait remember your still a minorQuote:
Originally Posted by Blue Eyed Girl
If he is 20 and you are 16... he is just looking for sex and that is most likely all he wants. I am 91% sure. 6% sure that if not sex, then a handjob. The other 3 percent? Probably wants to touch your breasts.
Take it from me. Guys are scum
If you want to invite him over, invite him over when your parents are there. Especially your Dad. I think that will solve any problems of "getting too close" or notcoolenough's awesome mathematical breakdown of a 20 year old wanting to get together with a 15 year old. And, it will probably deter him from coming over in the first place... There's something odd about a 20 yr old guy with a 15 year old girl... I know that it makes you feel pretty great that he's interested in you, but really, leave it there. Don't invite him over.
Honey, 91/6/3% is a pretty honest ratio... don't invite this man over without your parents. At least until you're 18. Focus on guys your own age...
Follow your instincts. You know deep down that you aren't comfortable with inviting him over without your parents, so DON'T! I don't really think its appropriate for a 20 year old to be going after a 15 year old in the first place. It all seems a little too "To Catch a Predator" to me. If you are bent on meeting up with him without your parents around you may want to meet in a public place that you are familiar with and invite a friend or two with you the first few times you see him. Where did you meet this guy anyway?
I agree with the previous posts. Trust your intuition. If something feels wrong to you, even if you aren't sure why, then trust your feelings. I think this guy shouldn't be with you because of your age (no offense to you). At 20, he is just in a totally different place in his life than you are. He also could probably be charged with a crime if anything sexual happens.
Don't invite him over to your house when no one is there. For all you know, he could take advantage of the situation and rape you. Sometimes people seem nice and safe, but they really aren't. You have to be careful not to put yourself in a dangerous situation.
If you are ever in any relationship and you feel pressure to do something sexual that you don't want to do, then don't. And someone who truly loves you will respect your boundaries. Honestly, I hate to say it, but this guy sounds like a creep to me, just because he is dating someone so much younger. (sorry, not trying to make you mad). I really think you should date someone closer to your age. That way you will just be at the same place in your life and there won't be as much pressure to have sex. Just never, ever be alone with a guy that you don't know well. Keep yourself safe.
Hope this helps!
If you would invite this guy and he shows up and then your parents come home - I can see the police being called and charges being brought up for statutory rape. He has no business being alone with you. No business at all. If he really likes you, he can wait until you are an adult.
I've read your other post where you say he gets angry when you tell him to stop , so am assuming your talking about the same guy.
Do not invite him over if your parents aren't there. He wants one thing , I doubt he would get angry if your parents were there.
Playing with fire often leads to getting burned. For the guy, 15 can get him 20... in not such a good place. Go your own way... away from the trouble that is sure to be lurking if you don't.
Good answers, hope you have taken some of the advice given.
Hey Agaiin =]
Mmkay well personally I think it's a really bad idea. Because he's twenty He is only looking for sex. Im thirteen and I went out with a sixteen year old guy and he came to my house and I ended up getting my aunty to come over so he would leave because I was so scared that he was going to end up raping me. Guys don't think about anything else but that. Its on there mind all the time. If you don't feel comfortable then you shouldn't even think about telling him to come over especially because your Rents aren't home. If you really want to see him or something why don't you go out somewhere public like to the movies? At least then you will feel a lot safer. If you have a car meet him there. Don't go in his Car if you haven't before. Its probably more dangerous. Just think about it. Cya x
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