I have been with my boyfriend since we were at school so 3 years we are now almost 18 and he said to me yestarday night that he didn't love me anymore and he wants to be free and make mistakes, and not be tied down, and everyone seems to think its because I pushed him away. After we spoke and argued we decided to try one more time to save us really but I feel sick and weak knowing he doesn't love me but still wants me. And trying to find someone else after been with my boyfriend for so long is a little un-nerving.

I don't know what to do, I love him so much and I need to know how to keep him or get over him...



Natz

Hi natz sorry to see you aboard... at least you'll find help

What I like to think I'd have the strength to do if I were in your shoes is breaking up as soon as possible.I imagine this must be very hard for you(3 yrs are a lot!),but you know that you're lying to yourself if you keep it up.concerning lying to yourself,better do it in a more constructive way by keeping your head up despite the fact that you feel torn.it's done,he told you what he feels and is probably sticking around because he's scared of being alone and missing you too.he wants to be single,but is afraid of feeling lonely.don't hang around for him,it will only do you worse.
And everything has an end,this was bound to happen at one point... break up and don't contact him.turn to your friends and family.it will be hell but it will pass.have patience with yourself and hope for the best.

Think about planet earth.it's one huge heartbeat,and a you're part of it.think about how little you are,but how strong and important.if you can see that,you'll be grateful that you're alive and know you can overcome anything.

Sorry I usually try to be quite positive but this guy is just using you, he doesn't love you or even care about you or he wouldn't treat you like this. Walk away and don't get sucked in again just because either of you start to feel a bit lonely. Better to let it go now that be stuck in a loveless relationship - with kids!