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  • Jan 17, 2008, 08:34 PM
    depressedhelp
    Boyfriend wants to masterbate on our first date!
    Hey, my boyfriend is rle sweet, and nice but he askd me
    ' do you masterbate '
    I told him the truth and said no, he says
    'well you should try it babe, or I could do it for you when we c each other'
    And I freaked out. What do I do?
  • Jan 17, 2008, 08:53 PM
    ISneezeFunny
    ... I don't understand... you two are dating but he wants to try it on your first date?

    Also, whatever you don't want to do, you don't have to. Don't let him force you to do anything you don't want to.

    Also, how old are you?
  • Jan 17, 2008, 09:11 PM
    depressedhelp
    I'm 14
  • Jan 17, 2008, 09:13 PM
    oneguyinohio
    First date? Is there going to be a second? What do you suppose he might be interested in getting from the relationship?

    Those are just some questions for you to think about. I don't need to see any answers.
  • Jan 17, 2008, 09:13 PM
    ISneezeFunny
    You two are boyfriend/girlfriend yet have not been on a date?

    Regardless, as I said... if you're not comfortable with it, don't go through with it.

    Not to mention, on your other post, your boyfriend isn't over his ex. He's only using you.
  • Jan 17, 2008, 09:14 PM
    oneguyinohio
    And this is from the same guy that is still wanting his previous girlfriend?
  • Jan 17, 2008, 09:59 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Not something normally asked on first date, esp at your ages.
    Sounds like someone just interested more in sex than a relationship
  • Jan 18, 2008, 12:53 AM
    eljay1103
    That's all he wants and he's probably just getting str8 to the point b.c if your not down he'll find someonelse... you say he's really sweet you'll find out after you tell him no I rather wait, see if he's still interested or if he's going to just blow you off and put you down... Honey that's not what you do on your 1st date especially at your age and don't let him manipulate you with his "sweetness"... Goodluck
  • Jan 18, 2008, 09:47 AM
    HistorianChick
    Honey, honey!! No, that's not OK! Whatever happened to the days when guys waited until the third or fourth date to even try to kiss a girl goodnight??

    I'm sorry if that sounded harsh, but dear, you already know the answer to your question. You're fourteen. You have plenty of time to do that on the many inevitable dates in your future. I agree with ISneezeFunny, don't EVER do something that you are uncomfortable doing. No boy is worth you going against your conscience... EVER. Seriously, just say no and ditch him!

    Good luck, darlin! And, practice "NO!" :)
  • Jan 18, 2008, 09:59 AM
    glenghs
    Both of U need and new relationship and that is with the Christ. Otherwise, U are N for a life of regret and moral poverty. Good relationships are 2 B desired above all and the only way to have that is to B honest with each other in all things and U should wait for "love" in the marriage bed. Otherwise, it is just sex and U will become weary with that after awhile, because U will feel like U R being used. I am 68 years old and I have seen a lot of lives crashsed because of wrong decision made concerned sex. May God lead U.

    Glen
  • Jan 19, 2008, 10:25 AM
    dana21
    Whoa. 14? And that's what he says?
    Ok if he doesn't have respect for you now.. in my opinion he won't have
    Any for the future... read the signs now and make the right decision
    NOW.. dont let it go further. The more longer u dwell on this situation
    The more complicated and confuse u get so just RUN FOR THE HILLS!
    I am so sure there are very nice guys out there.. who will respect you
    More then this GUY... RUN FOR THE HILLS!
    :)

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