Could you please help me?

I am in the same situation as maybe lots of other women. I am in love with the married man. He is my doctor. I know he has a wife and 2 children With my mind I know I should forget him, but every time I see him my heart beats violently and I dream of him every minute of my life. I can't forget him. I even confessed my love to him. p.ls. Help!

To answer your question you really need to tell us what he said after you "confessed your love to him"

How about going out and meeting other men?

How about reminding yourself that he's not for you, and that no matter how much it hurts, YOU need to get over it?

How about remembering that his wife and kids would be devastated if you were selfish enough to go forward on this? How can you be so selfish?

Go find an AVAILABLE man.

You may not be able to help your feelings, but you CAN help how you act on them. I'd get a new doctor, and not see yours anymore, because your feelings for him are highly inappropriate.

Excellent post by Synnen above! I agree. You need to get over it!

I do just want to add, that I have dated and also been in love with a number of women. Do I still love some of them? Yes. Are most of them now married? Yes. I don't have a problem with still being in love with them. I'm sure that some of them still feel the same way toward me. However, for one reason or another, things didn't work out. We all just simply moved on.

You also need to move on...

I now feel that I should not have confessed my love to him, since then he somehow distanced himself. I have never slept with him, but he always tries to make body contact with me.

You're correct. You should not have confessed your love to him.

He somehow distances himself from you and yet he always tries to make body contact with you. What exactly do you mean by that?

He used to be more attentive to me:
Now it's only light kiss, touch, cuddle

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Originally Posted by ladygirl

he used to be more attentive to me:
now it's only light kiss, touch, cuddle

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He's married. What would you expect?

You need to get out of this situation as soon as possible. He is now cheating on his wife. What makes you think that he wouldn't cheat on you?

Thank you, I understand

Yet I feel as if no other man exists in the world except him.

How old are you, please?

30

What ever happened to going for what you want??

30

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he used to be more attentive to me:
now it's only light kiss, touch, cuddle

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Originally Posted by Clough
He's married. What would you expect?

You need to get out of this situation as soon as possible. He is now cheating on his wife. What makes you think that he wouldn't cheat on you?

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Thank you, I understand

Yet I feel as if no other man exists in the world except him.

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Originally Posted by Clough
How old are you, please?

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30

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Thank you for answering that.
Have you dated much in the past?

Not so much

I was thinking that might have been the case.

What kind of things are you interested in?

Well, I am interested in world politics, reading interesting books+ sports, etc

Are you a member of any social groups in your area? Do you go to church? I am just trying to get an idea as to where you are socially in your life.

I am sorry, what is your profession? Are you a phychologist?

No, I'm not a psychologist. If you would like to know about me, then please read my profile. It is on the following link. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/clough.html

I am a leader of groups of people. Because of what I have done for a living, I have come into contact with all sorts of people and have had to deal with all sorts of situations as well as problems concerning people. I also know the correct people to pull into a post such as yours who can be of help. If you are seeking professional help, then you need to find it outside of this site.