Me(17) and my boyfriend(18) have been dating on and off for over a year now... somedays he will tell me he loves me but then somedays he tells me that he hates me... he breaks up with me but then asks me back out either that night or the day after... some days he tells me he wants to be with me for the rest of my life and that he wants to get married and have children and then somedays he will tell me that we are going to break up someday soon and he can't stand to be with me any more and he doesn't want to get married and he hates kids so why would he want to have children with me... this all makes me an emotional wreck and I love him more than the world. He tells me that he don't trust me because before we got together a year ago... he was flirting with me so I broke up with my boyfriend at the time and went out with him. And I have one more question... he used to flirt with this other girl when we were dating in front of me and then I caught him holding hands with his ex-girlfriend do you see why I wouldn't trust him and not want him to be around other girls or am I out of control and I should let him be with other girls?:confused: :confused: :confused: and I am trying to gain trust in him because I think he has changed... but I don't know how to go abouts trusting him other then letting him do it...


The only problem I have with leaving him is I can't stand even one night with out talking to him... we have tried to just be friends but there is too much love there to be friends... he always tells me he loves me when we are not dating more then he tells me when we are... I don't know...

This is a very difficult question due to mainly your relationship seems like a trainwreck. No one should have their past held against them, once you get into a relationship with that person, their past actions become null and void. You decided to date that person knowing how they were. If you can't trust each other, there is no relationship or hope of a future. It sounds like you both need space from each other to move on and see what other options are out there for you.

Do you really need all this drama? Doesn't sound like he is worth being with to me. Do yourself a favour and find someone who doesn't act like a 15 year old. Unless of course that's what you are and in that case you'll learn eventually that this isn't the way adults should conduct relationships.

Good luck!

No Trust... no relationship.

But it does sound a lot like high school dating, at least the way I remember it. Often in high schools, the girls took relastionships a lot more seriouisly than the boys did.

To have a relationship you have to have honesty you guys don't have that. You're both very young, you said, 17 and 18 right? He's playing mind games with you, and it sounds like it won't stop - and he could become verbally abusive, I mean, by telling you that he hates you and those horrible things he says - that is a type of abuse. You may love him, but trust me sweetie, there are many other guys out there who I'm sure would love to be your boyfriend, and who won't act like little children. I say, tell you're man you want a break, and not just a few day break.. make it go for a couple weeks, clear your mind, and evaluate, is this the MAN for you?

That relationship isn't a high school relationship. That's a jerry springer relationship. Get out of that.