My daughter got involved with an abuse man, verbally and abusive. After she found out she was pregnant, she also found out that he had been in trouble when he was 16 for some sexual act on a child. He is no longer in my daughter's life. My questions- if something were to happen to my daughter, can I keep him from taking my beautiful granddaughter. My daughter and granddaughter have lived with me since she was born. He does not come see his daughter and rarely pays any child support. My granddaughter is 18 months old.

Hello Nana... u have the answer in your question--"He does not come see his daughter and rarely pays any child support." If he is a coward to take his own responsibility, it's not your fault or your loss. Moreover, now there are 2 of you i.e. You and your Daughter to take care of the new born. Good Luck. Be Strong.

When you say he's abusive, what do you mean exactly? Did he beat her or just yell at her? We need a bigger picture here. Also, his sexual acts on a child were when he was 16 - practically a child himself in many ways. And how old was the child in question? You don't need to answer these questions, just think about them and try to be certain about this man.
As for his rights, you'd be able to take him to court and claim custody of the child, or even revoke his right to see her if you could indicate that he would endanger her.
All the same, if he rarely sees her, it's unlikely that he would be interested in taking custody of his daughter ever, so it probably isn't something that you need overly be concerned with.
Hope all is well,
Kal

First to colorblind. Nice sentiments but what's important here is the law.

What you need to do is have your daughter make a will that appoints you as guardian in case anything happens to her. Now he can challenge that in court if he wants to, but if you can prove his abusive nature its more likely the mother's wishes will be listened to. But if she does not appoint you guardian, then your legal standing will be much less and you may have trouble preventing him from getting custody if he wants.

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When you say he's abusive, what do you mean exactly? Did he beat her or just yell at her? We need a bigger picture here. Also, his sexual acts on a child were when he was 16 - practically a child himself in many ways. And how old was the child in question? You don't need to answer these questions, just think about them and try to be certain about this man.
As for his rights, you'd be able to take him to court and claim custody of the child, or even revoke his right to see her if you could indicate that he would endanger her.
All the same, if he rarely sees her, it's unlikely that he would be interested in taking custody of his daughter ever, so it probably isn't something that you need overly be concerned with.
Hope all is well,
Kal

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Yes he was physically abuse towards her, and was arrested and found guilty of domestic violence. The other child was 8 (a boy) and another time it was a young girl

Thank you all very much. I will have my daughter do a will right away.

With the domestic violence conviction, you shouldn't have trouble confirming your guardianship as per the will.

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Yes he was physically abuse towards her, and was arrested and found guilty of domestic violence. the other child was 8 (a boy) and another time it was a young girl

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In that case... you're probably doing the right thing keeping them apart. Make sure the will is worked out pronto.