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  • Jan 12, 2008, 04:22 PM
    slimteen
    Too slim?
    Hey..
    I'm 15 years old boy and I've got a problem. I am 176cm high and weight 62kg. I look really slim compared with my school mates. They are all good looking while you can see some bones on the front of my chest. I think I am well built: I train volleyball, and got well built muscles but they don't even look OK on my body :(
    The thing is I don't know if I'm even attractive to girls - girls hug my friends from time to time and I get a stupid handshake..
    I eat like crazy, I do exercises for muscles but I'm still slim. Is there any way I can make things better?

    Best Regards
  • Jan 12, 2008, 04:28 PM
    MandaBear0511
    Slim, you probably aren't to thin. I think I am to fat! When I know that I am not, because I only weigh 105ibs. My friends tell me all the time I am not fat, and that I am like the skinniest girl the've ever met! You should ask someone what they think about your body, probably should be a girl, see what they say. I bet you aren't even tooo slim. If you still think you are there are skake mixes you can take to biuld muscle.

    Have you been thin all of your llife?
  • Jan 12, 2008, 05:15 PM
    slimteen
    Hey.. I guess your friends are saying your fat in joke since you weight 105 lbs (47 kg right?) but I don't know your height. My friends tell me I'm slim and not in joke. And yes I've always been slim but didn't care till 1 year ago - that's when I started building my muscles.

    Best Regards
  • Jan 12, 2008, 06:34 PM
    MandaBear0511
    No, My friends don't tell me I am fat, they tell me I am too skinny. I am really skinny, but I think I am fat! I don't know why though! I tell myself all the time I am skinny but I can't convience myself.
  • Jan 12, 2008, 08:33 PM
    13sldr
    In the amrican metric system you are 5'7 and at 136 pounds.

    I am not expert in diet or anything but I suggest, stop exercisesing, and eat fatty type food, let the fat build up, in your body and you chest, then go back to working out

    But to me, you sound just fine, I am 5'10 and at 160 pounds

    If you have too fast of a metablism to do that, then get the shake mix (or how ever they come) that helps you build up fat
  • Jan 12, 2008, 08:43 PM
    oneguyinohio
    I think it is probably genetic. I was 6 foot and 115 pounds at your age.

    Now my weight is double that. It only took 20 years... of good food?

    Just have to be happy with who you are... work on being healthy and happy, and relaxed around the girls... Probably the responses you get from them are more about your relaxed personality or comfort level around them than physical appearance.

    If you get offered a handshake when they hug someone else, say "hey, forget that I want a hug too..."
  • Jan 12, 2008, 08:50 PM
    worthbeads
    You probably just have a high metabolism, like I do. I can eat and eat and I will never gain a pound (or in your case, a kilogram).
  • Jan 13, 2008, 04:24 AM
    slimteen
    Hey.
    Thanks for all of your replies!
    Just want to know what a shake mix is? And is there anything where you can find normal weight compared in height at my age - a some kind of program or a webpage. Or is there a way I can calculate this on my own?
    Thanks again
    Best Regards
  • Jan 13, 2008, 05:35 AM
    templelane
    Children First for Health - Teens - Health - Healthy eating - Your weight and BMI - Find your BMI

    Here is a child BMI site. Important things to note about this is muscle weighs more than fat so a high BMI in an athlete is often misleading. Teen and kids BMIs are compared to percentage of other people in their age group to determine what is probably overweight/underweight. You can also find growth charts to help you - I used to know a great site for this but I can't find it anymore :(.

    Here is one you have to work out yourself
    Growth Charts - Body Mass Index for Girls
    But you will see you are in the healthy range! Bang on the 50th percentile- that's the thick line in the middle.

    If you are still worried about your weight go see a doctor and they can refer you to a nutrionist to help you gain weight healthy withour resorting to just eating loads of fatty foods etc.

    Fuzzy sharing time- I used to get picked on for the same thing. People seem to think it is all right to make fun of somebodie's weight if they are thin. Of course it isn't- sometimes it helps to point out you aren't commenting on their weight perhaps they should stop mentioning yours. This tends to work quiet well with proper friends. As for other girls try not to let it get to you. Not everybody is the same and you don't have to try and fit some statistiaclly average body shape to have a happy healthy life. There is always variation.
    Good luck
  • Jan 13, 2008, 06:02 AM
    slimteen
    Hey.
    Thanks templelane! I calculated my BMI and looked at the chart (you gave me girl chart :) ) and found out that I am in the middle which is normal :) Well guess this is good for my health but I'm still not looking as good as my friends are :( I will keep on exercising and eating a lot.. Hope it helps :)
    Thanks for replies!
  • Jan 13, 2008, 06:54 AM
    KalFour
    Hi Slimteen,
    I wouldn't worry about it, your height to weight ratio doesn't sound too unnatural. And you're 15... in my school most of the guys around that age were quite skinny. You're probably going through a growth spurt, so no matter how much you eat you're unlikely to become huge. You should bulk up a lot at around 18.
    And I always had a thing for skinny guys... :P... maybe it's just me. I'm sure you look fine though. If girls aren't hugging you, maybe you're coming across as shy or something, so they are unsure of how comfortable you are around them... just a thought.
    As for the protein shakes, I'd be careful with those. You'd probably do better by concentrating on eating lots of healthy foods rather than things that are likely to make you fatter. Maybe take up weights or something instead.
  • Jan 13, 2008, 07:17 AM
    templelane
    Sorry I mistook you for a girl! :o It was the girls hugging thing- I can see the "im a boy" in the question now. Way too tired this morning... Well the message is the same regardless- just be happy with yourself. I bet you'll bulk out when you're a little older, seemed to be from 18 to 21 for all my male friends. It's weird it seems to happen almost overnight for some guys.
  • Jan 13, 2008, 09:19 AM
    slimteen
    Hmm well about that 18-21 thing. Every male in my family is cca 190cm tall.. If I'm going to be that big too I won't bulk up till 30 with my current body look :( God I hope I won't be that tall!
    Again thank you for your replies
    Best Regards
  • Jan 13, 2008, 01:57 PM
    Love-Life
    Its not hard to gain weight. And yes, most girls are attracted more to thick muscular guys. Your still young, but if you want to gain weight, take protein suppliments, creatine or whatever else there is to gain muscle. You have to go to the gym and work out though, and be determined.
  • Jan 13, 2008, 03:58 PM
    slimteen
    Hi.
    Well I am thick and I am muscular but not in the way other guys are ;) The thing I can't stop thinking of: my chest - you can see 3 lines of bones there (upper one is the most annoying). I can see some other guys have them too but I think mine are pointed out the most. I do exercises for my chest muscles and I've got them quite big but those bones are still seen :( Are those chest bones normal? I mean I have the "perfect" BMI (50%) and my bones are pointed out on chest - So this is supposed to be normal??
    Best Regards
  • Jan 13, 2008, 04:10 PM
    talaniman
    Whoa, dude. Your looking at the wrong things, and comparing yourself, to the standards set by others. Change your attitude of how you see yourself, and stop trying to be like "those guys". You want hugs from females, make a lot of female friends and hug them. You want admiration, accomplish by being the best you can be. Its about attitude and self-confidence, not body image.
  • Jan 13, 2008, 08:14 PM
    MandaBear0511
    Good, you need to know that you are not ever too anything! And should be happy how you are. I hated myself for a longtime but I learned that hating myself was only making my life worse!

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