My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and I haven't had a orgasm, and he feel inadequate.. What can I do to get a orgasm?

Quit trying to have an orgasm and just try to enjoy the good feelings that the sex is giving you. And if you haven't you might try some new positions, some new things like toys or oral sex. My wife gets hotter giving me oral than any thing I could do to her.

Do you have one without him? Do you instruct him on where and what to do in all of the foreplay, besure to try and reach that level before actual intercourse beings.

First, you aren't alone... there's a lot of women here who have posted with the same problem.

The tough thing is understanding why, as not all women have the same reasons.

First, can you get yourself off by self stimulation?

Second, have you ever gotten off with any other person?

Third, does he try to get you off orally?

Fourth, what positions do you normally try w intercourse? You on top? Him on top? Missionary? etc.

Really... this information can really help a lot. Start with this, and then we will proceed from there.

You may want to find out what makes you truly passionate by noting your sex fantasies that bring you to orgasm. That would be a good start to developing a strong sexuality.

In addition, shedding obsolete religious misinformation is a must.


Best wishes,