Step parents. Are they really wicked?
Hello, everyone. Not sure where to post this one exactly. As you may know my children and I are staying with my parents for the time being. Well one of the parents happens to be my step mother. My step mom and I have always had this sort of tension between us and the same with her and my brother. Lets just say she told everyone including us that she loved us but the way she went about things spoke the opposite. I mean you can tell when someone loves you and I don't think that she did. The way she slammed down our dinner plates with suchobvious hate but set her blood children's plates down gently and with a smile. The way she let her children have what ever they wanted and cursing my daddy out if he bought anything for us but not minding if it was for her blood children. Every time my brother and I tried to talk about this to our dad she would just boo hoo and then he just makes excuses for her and we used to be able to talk to my grandma about it but now my step mama has her fooled and she takes our stepmoms side now. She doesn't see what really goes on. My daddy keeps asking me why I didn't leave my husband the first time he asked me to come back and stay with him. Well I did not tell him the truth that it is because of something that she said. If I tell him he will not believe me and it will just cause trouble. I mean when I told him about her punching me in the nose when I was a kid he didn't believe me then anyway so why would he believe me now. Well now I'm staying with them but the tension is crazy. My step mom jokes with me sometimes and talks to me about stuff but its like still tense even then. She doesn't nag at me the way she used to and it feels like she is forcing herself to be nice to me. The other day when my step sister was visiting she snapped at me because my children and my stepsisters daughter came down stairs and jumped on the bed. She got onto me about my children but never said word one about her blood daughters child of course. When my step sister comes over I feel like the tension gets worse and my dad even acts all weird. I guess my dad has his new children now from my step mom and has no need for me anymore. Unfortunately my step mom is the only mom I know. I just feel like Im walking on egg shells and I have to watch my step so they don't crack or the roof is going to cave in. Any step parents out there who can offer some sort of advice?