I was talking with my therapist and through discussion have learned more and more about myself. I come from a dysfunctional family (like a lot of people) and was abandoned as a child. My mother and father were incapable of taking care of me. However, for some reason they came back later to get me (from a foster home) at the age of 12. It was then that things got worse. My dad was an alcoholic and mom was clinically depressed.

Anyway….you get the picture. Needless to say….things were tough.

I started stealing when I was younger…and got away with it many times but also got busted as an adult for shoplifting. I was crying out for attention that I never got as a child. I also told numerous lies. I think I did this to cover for my insecurities. This behavior of lying and stealing led to many problems as an adult.

After a few sessions with a counselor, I am uncovering issues that were a mystery to me. It feels weird but…I think in the long run, discovering these things, will be good for me. They say the truth sets us free.

I suffer from a few issues….one of them being an inferiority complex. That was the root of my problem (probably derived from abandonment issues and growing up in an alcoholic family environment). Anyway, I’ve committed to God and myself….to not lie anymore. Lying is form of manipulating…and it lowers your self-esteem. Most People lie because they are are ashamed of themselves or feel inferior in some way….at least it was that way for me. I have committed not to do It anymore…as it is a moral defect and will only hurt me in the long run.

Young people reading this post: My advice is to never, lye, cheat or steal. When you do these things…you are only hurting yourself. Commit to building character. Take this advice like you were listening to your Big brother or sister….it will serve you well.

Thank you for listening...

~T

It is good you realise all this and are owning up to things. Evaluating yourself like this can be the first step in making necessary changes. Often kids get like this as a reaction for survival and a defense mechanism. But when you are grown up it is time to become your own person and not use parents behavior as a crutch.
Many kids that go through things like this never realize it and stay in denial. They remain that way as an adult and always resort to 'my bad childhood' as an excuse to keep on in that direction.

It doesn't get you anywhere. People see through it and often are too polite to say anything. Or they know you are lying and just don't want to bring it up and then they just think there comes that liar again. What's he going to come up with today?

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Originally Posted by t-man

My advice is to never, lye, cheat or steal.

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But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love.
If you must steal, steal away from bad company.
If you must cheat, cheat death.

/War