Bi-Polar / Personality Disorder Investigating / Abrupt Behaviour
Hi !
I would like to introduce myself to the community and I am very happy there is a site like this this in existence. I am here to discuss the possibility of a personality disorder, perhaps bi-polar disorder.
I know you can't diagnose someone with a mental disease just through a post like this, but any answers in the right direction would help. Even if anyone can just give me an idea if there is possibility that the cause of my very recent ex's behaviour is due to any type of mental condition. Any advice is welcome.
I am writing because I recently had a breakup with a man with intense personality qualities I have never dealt with before, and due to some research I have done, I am starting to wonder if the cause was some form of Bi-Polar Disorder or some related personality disorder.
I think that if I can describe some of his traits and someone can give me some idea as to whether his behaviour is caused by this disease, I will at least be able to have some more closure. I hope someone can help me.
I have been suspicious for some time and I know that one of his siblings had told me that they suspected that the cause for their mothers mental and sometimes psysical abusiveness was bi-polar disorder and another sibling had a serious mental disorder and was normal once under medication, I believe I was told this sibling had shciztophrenia.
Here are some traits that I am suspicious about:
- Bad temper, but at other times can be very loving and generous
- Can be very friendly and sometimes so difficult
- Goes shopping on some level on pretty much a daily basis
- Started a whole new way of dress/ New Look / Gets on a "kick"
- Is really into drinking high energy soda pop like red bull etc...
- Aggressive but can be so sweet
- Self righteous
- Claims to be religious, but is into dark loud non-christian music (I am not christian)
- Has exploded at family members (his family member warned me of his bad temper)
- Seems to always want to be busy doing something
- No friends, a few aquaintainces
- He experienced some family trauma and deaths to those very close to him about 15 years or so ago, and I wonder if these experiences caused extreme behaviour
- Myself and others found aspects of his behaviour a bit strange/ out of proportion. He sort of pushed me before but it wasn't in a super abusive way, but kind of inapropriate. Then he cursed at me !
What really came to a head for me was the EXTREME and abrupt nature of our breakup. Our relationship was very passionate and close for the year that we were together.
We were starting to buy household items and make plans for our future to live together in a house. He was affectionate to me the last night and then we had one of our fights and he wanted to break up and there was NO WAY of turning around the situation. It was literally here today, gone tomorrow. I even asked him a few days prior if everything was OK with us and he said yes but then, after the break up (this could also have to do with pressures from his family to be kind to me) he wanted to hang out as a "friend" a few times as if nothing happened.
This was a very dramatic switch to the loving couple we were just right before. Now, in terms of getting back together, it seems all bets are off?!
Sure, writing more details would help but I don't want to put all of you to sleep anymore than I might have !
(Although please feel free to ask anything you like)
I have experienced a great deal of deep depression since this sudden shocking ending of the future I was building for over a year with this man I shared such beautiful love with.
If anyone could help me in any way, I would greatly appreciate it.
Thanks so much for your help,
Betty :confused: