Im looking for advice on personal things that I do that a normal person probably wouldn't do... especially when meeting a new person... or just a simple conversation with someone that isn't a close family member or a very trust worthy friend... I really need to break this habit but I don't want to say it in here lol... what do I do? :(

You have to tell us what the bad habit is, or we could be helping you with the wrong thing.

Is the problem not being confident talking to people? Because chatting on here where no one can see or judge you might be a start.

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Originally Posted by pimpin101

Im lookin for advice on personal things that I do that a normal person prolly wouldnt do....especially when meeting a new person...or just a simple conversation with someone that isnt a close family member or a very trust worthy friend...I really need to break this habit but I dont wanna say it in here lol...what do I do?? :(

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Are you perhaps wanting to know about getting over the anxiety of meeting or talking in front of people that you don't know? If so, then I can definitely identify with that and share with you some strategies as to how I overcame such a thing.

Ok well... considering in my mind I think I'm the ugliest person in the world... lets just say... when I talk to someone I don't know I pretty much make the least amount of eye contact as possible and most of the time say as least as possible... but this is with only people I don't know or barely talk to... I have a good amount of friends but anyone else... well you get the point... obivously I'm not the ugliest person on earth lol... but yah... im really shy... that sort of thing... :eek: :eek: :eek: If I see a big crowd of people coming let me run the other way :mad: lol Oh yah and when I'm walking out in the opening I tend to look down as much as possible.. :( Here's a pic : MySpace.com - ^Future<>Billionaire^ - 16 - Male - Boringville (Picayune), Mississippi - www.myspace.com/undefeated1 I just need some techniques or rituals (lmao) I can do to get rid of this sick feeling in the bottom of my stomach once and for all...

I must say you are quite handsome. You resemble my 18 year old son. No way are you ugly. Nope not a chance.
If anyone is telling you that your ugly tell them their crazy or blind!

Thank you for the compliment... I really do appreciate it but I'm still faced with the fact that I can't get over this feeling... when I do get a girlfriend its really hard to cope because of my EXTREME shyness and I'm thinking about the next place people are going to see me... what ill be wearing... or what my girlfriend is thinking... pretty much I think every time I walk in somewhere every is noticing me... makes me feel afraid... maybe this is a paranoia... :confused:

You're right, most people don't get that nervous around strangers. I used to. Then someone told me how to get through a job interview. Picture the other person sitting on the toilet. You can picture them all kinds of funny ways, wearing anything you can imagine. Then there was the stage where if someone looked at me, I'd stare them down. That was probably inappropriate to some extent but it got me over that paralyzing shyness. If people are noticing you? Notice them right back. When you see fear and uncertainty on their faces and in their body language, your perspective will normalize.

Seems like you have a normal amount of shyness for a sixteen year old guy. Maybe more...

Don't feel you have to be spontaneous when you meet a bunch of people. Have planned remarks! Works like a charm. :) You have to work on your act. All you are doing when you meet new people is conversatin'... don't put pressure on yourself other than talking... so you have to know something about popular subjects... sports, computers, gadgets and have a sense of humor.

As far as sex goes, well, you have to learn how to approach a female for a date without caving in. :) That's another subject.

Remember everyone knows teenagers are horn dogs, you don't have to be shy about that!

Ugly?! My a** u look like 1 of my m8s who has all the girls wanting out with him :)