Hi I been dating my girlf for 5months know I am really in love with her but did not tell her yet waiting for the right moment wich is coming really soon. This is the problem she dated this guy for 3 years and broke up with him 1 year ago she is totally honest with me we have a great realationship never one fight the problem is her ex boyf he still calls her and says nasty things to her and it bothers me she tells me she will take care of it but he still calls her and sends her nasty tex masage I tell her why doesent she stop picking up his calls she fells bad for him she still wants to be friends with him she allways tells me if she would change her number and something bad happened to him she would fell bad she tells me she does not want him or love him anymore she only wants to be friends but I can't expect that the fact the he was her ex boyf and treated her like bothers me if I am home she would call me and tell me the her ex boyf called and said nasty things to her I trust her I know she would never cheap on me... but I want to know if you think she still loves him or thinks about him she always tells me she would never never get back with him all I want to know why does she picks up the phone and lets him talk to her like that what should I do she gets mad when I get invloved please help!!

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Originally Posted by italiano

what should i do she gets mad when i get invloved

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Then stay out of it. The more you bug her about it the more she'll resent you for it. If you really can't tolerate it, break it off, tell her why, and move on. If she does actually still have a thing for him, she'll probably eventually go back no matter what you do, so better to get it out in the open and settled one way or the other.

5 months is still a new relationship, but stay out of her business. The problem is hers to handle. I also think your moving things a bit fast as you should know how she feels about you and have no doubts. Your still getting to know each other so pay attention.

This one sounds like a bad deal to me. He calls her, texts her and says nasty things to her and she still wants to be friends with him and tolerates it a year after the fact. Nothing good can come out of this. Walk away and take your dignity with you.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

5 months is still a new relationship, but stay out of her business. The problem is hers to handle. I also think your movin things a bit fast as you should know how she feels about you and have no doubts. Your still getting to know each other so pay attention.

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You are right everyone is telling me that I am moving to fast I just don't want some jerk to be talking to her like that no woman deserves to be treated like that but yea I would slow it down a bit and let her handle what she has to do. The guy is a cop in nyc and I am a cop in jersey so the matter is more complicated then it seems I am afraid the he might go crazy and do something to her I can't risk my job for him his not worth it but I will def... have a talk with her and see what she wants to do because this is no way I could deal with this drama don't get me wrong I got strong feelings for this girl but she is going to have to make a decision. Thanks

K.
Dude I personally think that your girlfriend obviosly seems like she still cares about him but not that way. It's good that she trusts you but if your getting really worried then maybe tell her ex to back off. She might also feel scared if see doesn't pick up the phone or she misses him. Either way probs stay out of it, even though I understand that your worried but if she says she's fine then I gues trust her unless it get serious
Goodluck