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  • Jan 4, 2008, 12:56 PM
    Heartacke
    She has a boyfriend
    Hey guys, most probably someone already talked about this but I decided to make a new thread,

    I met a girl that I really like and that likes me A lot, she has a BF thou... She likes him tooo, wich is annoying for me. Each time I try being "too" nice to her, she keeps telling me I have a boyfriend.

    She likes me and crap. I even checked with a friend to be 100% sure. The thing is, she is looking for a long term relationship, and she has been dating her boyfriend for a month soon. I told her I can provide her a long relationship but I dnu. I keep getting a : I can't or something like that.

    We got into an argument 2 days agp, and I told her this: You have a boy friend and this is going nowhere so I think we should stop seeing each other and forget we ever met. Her answer was : I don't want to forget you, I love spending my time with you, I don't want to loose you...

    I can't move on because I keeep thinking of her, and each time I say I want to C u, I get the same reply sooo what should I do?

    Some side info: We talk everyday, many hours.
  • Jan 4, 2008, 01:18 PM
    AKlady
    You can't make someone talk to you and you sure can't make someone like/love you. If you really like this person then you must know it's important to respect his/her wishes and just let go. An important thing to remember is don't push oo hard-the more you push the further you just might push the one in your heart away. Give things time and hopefully if things are meant to be between the two of you they will be. Good luck and I hope this helps.:)
  • Jan 4, 2008, 01:22 PM
    450donn
    She knows how you feel about her. All you can do now is stand back and wait. It is unfair to butt in to an existing relationship.
  • Jan 5, 2008, 08:44 AM
    Heartacke
    Well I didn't push her or , and I'm just going to wait but I'm not planning on waiting a lot of time. I'm just going to wait about a month or a month and a half, but if nothing happens I'm going to move on.
  • Jan 5, 2008, 09:24 AM
    nkychic
    I think you have the right idea. You don't want her to think you are willing to wait forever because she may just test that theory. Move on with your life. You say she really likes you, and maybe she does, but it isn't you that she is with. That says a lot in itself. Maybe a reality kick is just what she needs. Move on with your life, talk to other people. You can still talk to her and spend time with her, but no more than the average friend would. Right now she has the best of both worlds... a boyfriend and a crush that is willing to fall second in her life. Don't give her that. Give her the space she needs and you take the space you need. Move on with your life and if it's meant to be, the opportunity will approach. Give her time to figure out what it is she wants, even if she has to figure it out without you. Good luck!

    <3 Leslie
  • Jan 5, 2008, 09:50 AM
    Heartacke
    Thanks Leslie, I'm going to tell her now that: Im going to move on thou I might still be interestd later and give me a call.. and ill just stop talking for a bit if she feels like bad/sad maybe she'll realize she likes me..

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