I ended my 1 1/2 year relationship at end of November. My ex and I had been living together for 1 year. She has yet to move any of her belongings (t.v's, beds, sofas, clothes etc.) or take her 2 dogs and rabbit. Says she "can't find a suitable place to live" and doesn't want to have to "move her things twice" by storing them somewhere. I need to put closure to this and get my life back. How long is reasonable to give her to move her things? I'm taking care of her animals and collecting her mail for her, as well as housing her belongings. I want my house back and I need to be able to start replacing my items that were given away (sofa, bed, t.v.) because they '''weren't as good" as hers. I don't want to be insensitive but I need to take care of me too. Please advise.

Baton Rouge

Sounds like she may be depressed; does she have any family nearby? You need to be reasonable and prudent with her belongings because you could be civilly liable for any damages to them. So do not set them on the street. One thing that comes to mind is you could rent a storage unit and put the things there for 30 days, and just not pay any more rent. Perhaps she will go with you and be a co-tenant; that way, she is responsible for her own things.

Tell her exactly what u wrote here:

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I want my house back and I need to be able to start replacing my items that were given away (sofa, bed, t.v.) because they '''weren't as good" as hers. I don't want to be insensitive but I need to take care of me too.

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U need to be frank with her. She may be depressed. She might not want to let go. Or perhaps she just wants to teach u a lesson for dumping her. Anyhow, by being subtle, u can never get the message across.

Let it out, man!

Is she upset about the relationship? I bet she thinks that by moving her stuff out... the relationship is over. So if she can keep it there, then she still has a chance.

I agree with the guy above me, move them into a storage unit. As far as her pets... does she have family in the area? That would be my first choice. The other could be to call her, and tell her to take the pets or else you will give them to the humane society. She might call your bluff, but when you do it, at least she will have had a warning.

Talk with her and tell her exactly what you typed in your post. Pick a reasonable date for her to remove her items. If they are still there by the time the date rolls around, call and talk to her and give her a 2 week warning or something like that. Let her know that if she doesn't get the items by then, you will put them in storage and she will be responsible for them.

As far as the pets, see if you can get a friend or family member of hers to take them. If nothing else, just drop them off to her. Of course, give her advanced warning and all. But maybe picking a date for everything to be out of your house will make it hit home to her that the relationship is over, she is single, and responsible for her own stuff. Good luck!

After a 30 day notice, they become abandoned, and you can get rid of them.