I have recently found out that my soon to be "ex" has been cheating on me our entire marriage and has a 2 1/2 son with another woman. We have a 5 year old together.

Does anyone know how a court will respond with this type of situation?

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Originally Posted by Shocked

I have recently found out that my soon to be "ex" has been cheating on me our entire marriage and has a 2 1/2 son with another woman. We have a 5 year old together.

Does anyone know how a court will respond with this type of situation?

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I've been through divorce and we must have went through court quite a few times. Of course my situation was probably a bit different. But It very very much depends on the attitude of the judge. Even if you have an extremely well paid lawyer. Ya better hope the judge isn't a jerk.

It's really a shame how the legal system works - my son and I did nothing but yet we have been going to court every two weeks and I have seen NO money the last two months. I am still waiting for the PDL to go through. We're going to court for a restraining order - I have been granted one year and my son is on it as well - this is what we keep going back for. He did get to see our son on x-mas with MY rules. What's the point of a restraining order if it will not be inforced?

I guess he had to fork out the money for x-mas with his new family.

The legal 'system' was not designed to handle the challenges presented by the modern era. Consequently, it is always in a 'catch-up' mode, with society changing so much, so often. You mentioned two issues: money and restraining order. (I have never heard of 'PDL') Money is in the form of child support and alimony; have you been awarded either or both? Restraining orders are common, but is this something that you need? Has he threatened you in some way, or threatened your child?

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Originally Posted by Shocked

I have recently found out that my soon to be "ex" has been cheating on me our entire marriage and has a 2 1/2 son with another woman. We have a 5 year old together.

Does anyone know how a court will respond with this type of situation?

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The welfare of the children is paramount , period, they court don't care how the kids, got here, they just care, how they are to be cared for, from now on
I'm sorry he was playing away from home , but that's life, in fact he was cheating on three people, himself, you ,and the other woman ,
Just be glad , you found out today...
Don't use the kid as a pawn , look beyond this , and take care of your child the best way you see fit...

One more thing keep a record of anything the court mite want to know,
Prove he can't be trusted...
Sorry... I hope you go on to find the real one for you :(