I'm 19 and my fiancé is 20. We have been off and on in out relationship for 2 years and the sex has been amazing. He wasn't very good when I met him but I've turned him into an amazing lover. We have been back together for a month now since our last split... I'm not very trusting of him and have recently tried to trust him so we're trying to work things out. After we saw his grandparents on christmas all of a sudden he wants to be a good boy now and says it's in the bible and we shouldn't have sex until we're married. I'm sorry but sex is a huge way of proving our love, at least that's how I see it. He still hugs me, kisses me, tells me he loves me and feels on me and such but he won't make love to me. I feel as if he either isn't attracted to me anymore, or is interested in someone else. He doesn't seem stressed or depressed and I trust he isn't into someone else, but you never know... we've been through enough problems and this is the last straw. I love making love. It's so amazing to have that special intimate time with someone. What am I to do?

I'm not so sure sex is a way of "proving" the love... maybe expressing it.

Two things:

1. if he's telling the truth... he's into the "bible thing" and he really believes in this, then you have to either respect him for it, and wait for marriage, or leave him.

2. if he's lying and seeing someone else, you... should leave him.

Both choices are pretty cut and dry, but really. I had a girlfriend who was waiting until marriage. I respected that. Granted, we broke up after 4 months (other reasons)... and she slept with the next guy... at least I respected her.

Never forget about Adam and Eve; at the right time, just get him to try it, just one bite. Works every time!

Respect him, or leave him alone.

Did you try telling him your feelings?
What you've told us, your relationship has been up and down many times, so explain that to him and now avoiding any intimacy? Any woman would be having doubts I personally find it strange and sudden and would be on high alert.

Plus, I think of this thing of waiting until marriage like going on cold turkey with chocolate. Think of it this way, the person avoids chocolate but still gets those cravings, one day that same person will burst and gorge. Sooner or later something gives, it's being human, and that's why people can't seem to wait in getting married because of that tradition of waiting until marriage. They get married too soon and young in life and our divorce rate is up. I know it's a religious thing, I am not trying to insult anyone.

I highly doubt he's cheating on you... because why would he tease and torture himself by making out with you and feeling you, and then stopping? I would think if he was cheating on you, he would still sleep with you.