:mad: Can people really talk to the dead?? I keep asking this question to myself and wondering why my mum doesn't come through to talk to me. We were best friends. I have been to 4 different psychics and they say all this stuff that doesn't relate in any way?? Help me talk to her someone...

Sir/Madam,
I was also very much attached to my mum and she left me before 2 years.

I am still crying every time I remember her. She was true beliver in god but god took her away, not only took her away but god took her away in very bad way and made her suffer. All I can do is keep watching. My whole life I won't be able to forget this.

I am talking to her everyday but no answers, all I can do is cry. I guess this is what life is. I am leaving from my daughter who loved her grandma.. Hope this help you...

It is hard to have someone who is so close to you and so much a part of your life die. I am sorry. The best advice I can give is this: Trust yourself. Trust yourself to know best how to grieve and when, and when you feel like you really want to do something to remember your mother and honor her, don't feel guilty about dropping whatever you are doing and going and doing that, whether it is visiting her grave or the place where she liked to have picnics, or baking her favorite kind of cookies.

Cultures all around the world have different ways of going through this, of letting the person go but holding the love of the person within you, knowing that the love transcends death and that ultimately you and she are part of a greater Oneness, and can never be completely lost from each other.

But what you do doesn't have to be elaborate. It can even be silly. And how you speak with your mother is easy. Don't make it too hard, just make it like daydreaming. Don't talk yourself out of it by saying, "This isn't real, it's just my imagination." Of course it's your imagination. Without imagination there would be no such thing as faith (religious or otherwise), music, or love. It is our ability to imagine that lets us take all the whirlwind of thoughts and feelings and images and sounds and smells that we experience, and put it all together into something that makes sense and has meaning.

So just let yourself imagine, let yourself daydream, and don't try to force it to be anything in particular. Just start talking to her, and letting her answer, i.e. imagining her answers. On a deeper level, that imagining or daydreaming might actually be your intuition tuning into her real continuing presence in your life, and the things she says to you may be absolutely genuine and real and really come from her. Who is to say they are not?

Just do it and, well, play with it. As I said, don't try to hard, and try not to keep thinking "Would she really say that? Am I doing it right?" That's like reminding yourself every five minutes through a movie, "This isn't real, I'm just watching a movie." Of course you're watching a movie, but who cares? It's boring if you don't let yourself get caught up in it. So just have a nice, casual conversation with her whenever you want.

I'll betcha that sooner or later if you do that, your mom will say something to you that you weren't expecting. When you think about it later, you'll realize, wait a minute, if I were just imagining it, I'd know what she was going to say, she wouldn't say something that surprised me. So maybe it is real..

If it's real for you, if it shows honor to her and gives you peace, then it is real and it is good. Don't let anyone in your life, or yourself, tell you otherwise.

Blessings,

Alder

Even though you were best friends it is really not that easy for the dead to communicate. Then again she may be watching over you all the time and you wouldn't know. Just leave yourself open to the possibility. Psychics are after the money.

For something else to do that is a try anyway have you thought of the Spiritualist Church? I think sometimes they don't really see anything but they do try. Either that or the different call in programs for psychics. Sometimes they do seem to be really picking up on people.

You already know your mother from your life better than they ever will. Just know that she is OK and in a better place.

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Originally Posted by kaytlynk

:mad: Can people really talk to the dead????? I keep asking this question to myself and wondering why my mum doesnt come through to talk to me. We were best friends. I have been to 4 different psychics and they say all this stuff that doesnt relate in any way??? Help me talk to her someone....

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Hi - I also miss my Mum terribly but I have to say that going to psychics is not the way to find her. She will be in your heart forever and that is the place to look. I talk to my Mum as if she were here still and that is how I find her presence. In troubled times. I ask for her wise guidance and always get it. The lessons she taught you stay with you. Trust that instinct you have and it will never let you down. Always think, "what would my Mum have said, or done, in this situation" and the answer will come. It never fails, like the love you had between you, it is part of you. Your Mum is here, looking out for you and looking after you... say hello to her... she never left you.