I've been with my girlfriend for a wile now I love her very much but latly we have been having problems she don't want to have sex any more she never calls or text me I have to do it first and she don't seem like she cares any more and I was just wondering if there was a reason for this or am I just tripin on it:confused:

Something isn't right , first you need to ask her, is there something wroung
Is there some one else involved? If not , its time for her to explain what
And today, the answer nothing isn't good enough OK

Better to find out today rather than waiting ,for shokeing news tomorrow...

I agree. Something is definitely not right. The best thing for you to do is talk to her. Tell her the changes you have noticed and ask her if she feels different towards you. To put it quite frank, sit back and shut up. I don't mean that to sound rude, but once you ask her the questions, give her a chance to answer them without your comments (unless requested). Keep an open mind. Good luck to you and I hope that everything works out.

<3 Leslie

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My girlfriend don't seem live she wants to spend time with me any more she never calls me or what's to have sex any more and I don't know what to do I don't feel appreciated any more I give her every thing she can dream of but she treats me like what should I do:confused: :confused: :confused:

so that means there probably something wrong and you need to sit down with her and have a talk... ask her what going on what wrong... and need to get it out...

a woman never do something for no reason.. there got to be a reason behind it.. and you I no it hard but dude it life ^^ and have fun

best wish

Don't be surprised if she has other things on her mind more important than you, and its only a matter of time before she needs a break. Take it as an advanced warning of getting dumped. Sorry.

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i give her evey thing she can dream of but she treats me like what should i do:confused: :confused: :confused:

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She treats you like this, yet you still give her everything that she can dream of. I hate to break it to you babe, but she is using you. Let her go and move on with your life. Why waste all your time trying to figure out why it isn't working instead of just accepting that it isn't. Take some time for yourself. It sounds as though she is pulling away from you and I think that you need to do the same. Something's weren't meant to last, but only there to help bring us closer to the happiness we will inevitably find. Good luck!!

<3 Leslie

Trust me, I know from first hand experience. When me and my ex left school, the same thing happened. We went from spending everyday at school together, and then when we got back I was always the one intiatiing things and calling and what not. 7 months ago I knew something was wrong but I kept telling myself it was just normal that she just needed some space. Fast forward to the end of November she telling me she doesn't love me anymore and was faking it since school. Even when I tralked to her about it during our relationship it just ended up in a fight. Trust your gut on this one, chances are you're heart is right.

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I just moved out of Cali the state I lived in cause of the economy and me and my girlfriend were fighting all the time and not getting along for one reason or another and we are still together even though I'm 1500 miles away I love her to death but we are still fighting if not even more then before and I don't know what to do she is going out to parties and I'm not there I'm just working and going home have not gotten to know any one what should I do

Fighting long-distance is not very fun. (I've done it before.)
When you do talk, try to say positive things, and be honest with her. Don't blame her or bring up old issues and she won't put up her defenses. What exactly are you two fighting about anyway?
If you just CANNOT trust her while she is away from you, then I believe it's time for a break, a separation, or a serious resolution to these conflicts to try to save your relationship. Without trust, the relationship just won't work out.

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Well I moved away from my girlfriend for a while cause of work we have been toether for a year and a half and we lived together and I got on her myspace today and found her talking to another guy about having sex and living there life togeter this is one of her ex boyfriend and they were talking about getting back together keeping another warm if you know what I mean so after I say that I got onto her email account and seen that last march she sent some naked picture to this other guy I love her but don't know what to do I know the ovius is tell her bye but why would some one do this I have gave her everything she could have ever dreamed of I would come home from working 10-12 hour days clean the house make dinner do everything yes she did do something but not much she always talked about getting married and having a family and the whole time she was 2 faced I just need some advice and maybe some one to talk to thank u

Love is cruel!
But no matter what, you need to do the right thing,
Her being unfaithful is rong and no one deserves to be treated like that.
She obv put things into your head wich in anyone's mind would mess your head up!
Do what's best for yourself! Know matter how you feel you need to do the right thing, even if she says she wants to be with you and it was a 'mistake',
What goes to say that she isn't going to do it again! And you will never be able to move on
Because this is always going to be in the back of your mind!
Follow your head not your heart because you could only end up being hurt again, its hard to let go but sometimes you have to do the right thing for your own sake! Its her loss!

If you get back together with her and you leave to work... is she going to send naked pictures to someone? Is this going to remain an issue? You will have continued trust issues if you remain in this relationship! She will need to earn it back! And will she want to? But first you need to ask yourself these questions:

1) Do I really want to cook, clean, provide, treat with respect and cater to someone who doesn't respect me?
2) Will she do it again?
3) Will I ever trust her?

It sounds like you are a great catch so find someone who deserves you and what you have to offer. She is cheating whether she is physically doing it is not important... it is the intention and the actual actions she has done this far including emotional cheating. Her ex huh! She obviously never got over him and he was probably a jerk type that she just loves being treated like a tool. You're a nice guy and as they say "nice guys finish last" BUT they finish the best.

Get out of the relationship and try to move on with your life... sending naked pictures is no joke and enough for me to say good bye! This is just my opinion, but I believe you deserve much better.

If you want to work it out, it is up to you. You will need to approach her and discuss this with her... the focus being on your relationship and if she still wants to remain a girlfriend or if she would like to pursue other men. You need to know so you can move on too.

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I don't know what to think this is what happen me and my girlfriend got into a fight today cause I found on her myspace she was talking to her ex and they were talking about having sex and calling another secret lover etc and keep each other warm if you get what I mean I confronted here and she said that's how they play around that's how the always have does mean there going to do it I don't know if I should believe it then I got on her Yahoo account and found that there were naked pics of her sent to another guy she says that they had her password and that he got on there and sent hem to his self the pics are once that are saved on the account should I believe her or do you think she is lying I love her with all my heart but the trust ain't there now and I don't know what to do

No trust- no relationship.

There are a lot of red flags here,if its true,she is being very disrespectful to you,and I would find her interaction with her ex very suspect.. they may have once spoken like that,but there not together any more..

My advice is talk to her again,if your not happy with the explanation,I would seriously reconsider the relationship.

It looks like your girlfriends been cheating behind your back, while at the same time she was making it sound like she wants to spend her whole life with you. Move on. You don't want to spend your whole life loving someone who will always have her ex on the side. She has comittment problem that you can't fix for her. You deserve someone better.

Your GF has been cheating on you in one way or another for a long time - at least this is what your others posts seem to indicate...

Why do you continue to allow yourself to be treated in this way?

You know you can't trust her, in fact you haven't been able to trust her for a long time.

I wouldn't believe ANYTHING she says.

You know what you need to do - you just have to find the guts to do it.

Dump her.

All your posts about this relationship point to major trust issues. She's not honest with you. Time to move on.

The question should be, can you forgive her, and if so do you really want to be with someone who flirts with ex boyfriends even if just playing around about getting together for sex, and who has naked photographs of themselves going out to others when they are in a relationship with you? She sounds to me like a girl who loves to flirt and loves romance and might just want more than she can get in 1 relationship. Perhaps she loves you but she just needs to flirt and get attention. Sometimes people both male and female need to feel sexy and need attention. Often people say this is because they are insecure.

That's a label that may or may not be true for her. But, what is true is that you don't really truly know her, for if you did you would not be surprised by this.

Can you love someone like her and accept her even if she does things like this?

I only ask because many times the truth of the matter is that more often than not we've all been in a relationship like this... and some of us ourselves are like this and hide it.

Humans crave attention... some of us are easily satisfied with the attention we get from one person, but not all of us are that emotionally balanced.

There are a lot of insecure, lonely people out there, even those in relationships will often seek out an affair, or accept one even when they were not seeking it just to feel more love in their lives.

For what it's worth, here's my advice... make a decision that you can live with... if you want to feel jealous and torture yourself all the time worrying about what she's doing all the time, stay. If you want respect and truth and to really know her talk to her and tell her what you want, and if she's not willing to respect you and your wishes, find someone that will.

Every real relationship deserves honesty and respect.

Good luck!

I'm so sorry----- drop her