I can't tell if my Ex is toying with me.
I was together with this girl for two years. Since we graduated school in May I she just gradually kept acting weirder. She would talk less, and placed more emphasis on her friends. I didn't mind any of it I figured it was normal. We saw each other about 3 times a month, we live about 40 minutes away but I had just gotten a job 5 minutes from her house. We had lived together in college our senior year, so I figured that space was a great thing for the both of us. But in all two years I had never once hung out or met all of her friends. Her excuse was that she didn't see them that often and that was her time with them. (They're all single too & one of them is her ex) At times I would think you know she doesn't love me, and I tried talking to her about it once in September and she just kind of said what are you talking about I still love you but space is good for us. Later that month she blew up on me when we hadn't seen her for 3 weeks and I brought it up again, and did the same thing in November which ended our relationship. She said she didn't need to check in with someone.
The thing is I NEVER bugged her about where she was or who she was with, I just questioned why we didn't see each other more than 2 or 3 times a month especially when we were so close. She said she needs to regain who she is, because she doesn't know anymore. When we broke up she said she didn't love me and that she was faking our relationship. Now 5 weeks later, it has turned into I still have all these feelings, I just need to figure myself out now and don't want a boyfriend. And whenever I tell her maybe we should both move on she throws something like "Ive been thinking about getting back together with you" or " i still have these feeligns for you and I KNOW it can work out with us in the future, but not now". I can't tell if she means it or she's just making me her . She's had almost two months to see how it is, and we'll get back to talking everyday / all day for about a week and I'll just ask her if she's been thinking about things and she'lll just flip out on me, but when it gets to us parting ways she pulls the same where she ropes me back in with her words. Do some people really just need time to figure themselves out, or do you think that if somebody really loves you you'll be together?