19 Year Old Son Not Being Responsible
My 19 year old son soon to be 20 in March is driving me crazy. He is good kid (young man), works and attends college. My concern is the older crowd he hangs around and the late nights away from home. He has befriended a group of older co-workers (mid 20's to late 30's) who depends on him in my opinion as a taxi service and who keeps him out late. He has a girlfriend that is heading no where in my opinion. We went from a 2am curfew to not coming home at all daily. I expressed that he needs to call to assure me that he is okay. No compliance. Okay, I let that go and decided to just be thankful when he did show up. Recently my job assignment ended and I have been non-stop looking for work for the last 2 months to no prevail but my son, who eats at my house, wash clothes at my house, drives a SUV I bought him, (recently he started paying the insurance), sleeps here when need be, bathe at my house, has not offered me $1.00 to make ends meet. I couldn't except it if he did but the idea of him not offering hurts really bad considering I have a 17 year old at home as well, am a single mom and has sacrificed and provided for both of my children as if I had a two family income. Then I come across charges he has made for his girlfriend in amounts no less than $200.00. No excuse. When I talk to him he gets upset. I informed him tonight that something has got to change. What do you think I should do? I don't want to put him out because I want him to finish school and not only that I would worry like crazy to his whereabouts. We are in a new state with no family and all he truly has is his sister and me.