Hello all...
Stumbled upon this site and it looked pretty good for asking and answering questions w/o 13 y/o kids "trolling" like on Yahoo's answers site.
To be straight forward, I am a 40 y/o DWM with bipolar and have been disabled for about 5 years from it.
I do miss the "good old days" when I had a career I loved and a marriage that was just struggling. Basically, she forgot that when you get married, you got to stop dating others.
Now I work as much as I can part time and sometimes volunteer when I can.
I guess the mature adult in me realizes I can find an open minded woman that is OK with a decent guy with a big road block in his life. They're out there, but hard to find.
I've been divorced for about 7 years. Since then, I've dated about 5 women casually.
But, I am hot and cold about commitment now.
Sometimes, I like my solitude and not really having to answer to a loved one, like anyone would in a responsible relationship.
Then on the other hand, I get lonely and crave expressing love and receiving it back in a stable relationship as well.
Kind of a catch 22...
The big prob. Could also be the side effects to my meds. I have the urges, but between age and side effects, it has been embarrassing for my in the past when intimacy was involved.
I guess there is a question in here somewhere, and I hope I didn't ramble on with it.
Thanks!

Good post, Waldo, I think you just wanted to vent. Sorry, but I can't find your question but give me a day or so and maybe I can. I just think you have to give yourself more time. It does sound like you are doing okay and know what the problem is. Good luck, keep writing, it all helps. Sometimes you can find the answers yourself quite easily.

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Originally Posted by waldo1967

Hello all...
Stumbled upon this site and it looked pretty good for asking and answering questions w/o 13 y/o kids "trolling" like on Yahoo's answers site.
To be straight forward, I am a 40 y/o DWM with bipolar and have been disabled for about 5 years from it.
I do miss the "good old days" when I had a career I loved and a marriage that was just struggling. Basically, she forgot that when you get married, you gotta stop dating others.
Now I work as much as I can part time and sometimes volunteer when I can.
I guess the mature adult in me realizes I can find an open minded woman that is OK with a decent guy with a big road block in his life. They're out there, but hard to find.
I've been divorced for about 7 years. Since then, I've dated about 5 women casually.
But, I am hot and cold about commitment now.
Sometimes, I like my solitude and not really having to answer to a loved one, like anyone would in a responsible relationship.
Then on the other hand, I get lonely and crave expressing love and receiving it back in a stable relationship as well.
Kind of a catch 22...
The big prob. could also be the side effects to my meds. I have the urges, but between age and side effects, it has been embarrassing for my in the past when intimacy was involved.
I guess there is a question in here somewhere, and I hope I didn't ramble on with it.
Thanks!

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Hi,Waldo

I, too, am very much in your shoes.

41,DWM, and have the same problems as far as a good woman,disability(just got on this year)and intimacy.

My female friends(the ones I would like to be closer to)don't all understand the lack of:

1) Willingness to try, and

2) The ability to do anything about it!

My life on Zoloft (6 years or so) has left me impotent.(this is hard to admit,but I can do it in here, not in my 'real life',OK a few times, but they were difficult also)

If this is where you are heading and feel uncomfortable you can E-mail me,look at my name and click it,look for the Yahoo listing and E-mail or private message me.

KEN

There are lots of ways to have pleasure and give pleasure to a lover.

Maybe you are just "stuck" in your personal transition mode, and need a lot new input and many new ideas that will turn you on to life again.

Why not invest in a few visits to a sex therapist? That seems ideal for you at this point in your life.


Best Wishes on Your Life's Journey!