I feel like my high sex drive is affecting my relationship with my girlfriend. We argue at least once a month about it and I don't want to argue about it anymore. I think it has something to do with the fact that we moved to second base within the second month and I know I'm wrong for trying to put everything into a timeframe but I don't know how to get rid of my desire to have sex with her. If anyone has any suggestions please tell me because I don't want to lose this girl over something as simple as sex.:confused:

How old are you?

"...as simple as sex"? You kidding? You are into the deepest pit of doo doo you will ever step into.

If you are arguing, time to look elsewhere.

Self disipline is a good start. And can you define the term: FATHERHOOD??
Keep your willy to yourself.

You merely stop pushing her till she is ready, a real relationship is ot based on sex, but on communication and friendships.

And second base, teens right?

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

You merely stop pushing her till she is ready, a real relationship is ot based on sex, but on communication and friendships.

And second base, teens right ??

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Yeah and I know its not based on sex but how am I not supposed to want it when she teases me with it

Tell her that, if she doesn't stop teasing, it's over. You will move on. If she teases, walk away.

I hereby give you permission to take control of this situation and insist that she behave herself.

You control the drive and don't let it control you. That simple, you don't let the little head get the big head in trouble. First test of manhood.

"she teases me with it" Someone needs to teach your girl some manners because she's playing with fire as well. I'm not laughing cause it ain't funny.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

You control the drive and don't let it control you. That simple, you don't let the little head get the big head in trouble. First test of manhood.

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Thanks that the kind of answer I've been waiting for.

Don't forget that being a teen girl is confusing. Honestly, she probably wants to have sex just as much as you do, but it is something that is incredibly defining and intimate with us. She teases because her body is saying yes and she turns you down because somewhere she knows she is not ready. Be romantic in different ways. If you guys are supposed to go any further than where you are, if you really like her, you will wait for her. And there is nothing that is more of a turn on than a man that will wait. Lastly when you do have sex, it will be so much better than just waisting the experience cause you couldn't control your hormones

I am totally confused! How old are you and your girlfirend?do you live together? Is it her first time to have sex?If it is,you should respect her, and take her feeling into consideration!even it is not,I think you still should care for her feeling! Or maybe you can talk with her about that why she does not want! Good communication is a good way to that,I guess so!

Just to be clear, second base is kissing a little fondling and feeling up. Over there cloths. They are not on the same base. She doesn’t want to move pass second but he wants more. She will venture into third base with him, but she will not allow him to. So now she is a tease. She is only going this far because she wants to please him and he allows her to.

Young man, you have to learn how to control yourself. Stay on second and learn to be content with that. If you feel yourself trying to move toward third you stop! Tell her that if we keep doing this I will more and (she) is not ready to. Instead of complaining she will respect you more.

Hi, Im a woman and I might sound crazy, but I love having sex, just like a guy I think, but I have not had sex relationship 8 months ago and its very frustrating because Im not the type of one night stand, and since I do not have a boyfriend I won't have sex till I find the right one, by now what I do is to play with myself, so if your girl is not like the feeling of having sex like you do try to respect that and play wiith yourself because also you have to respect her desires that could affect your relationship and try to find out about her weakest body part and work on it :)

She "teases" you?

Let me guess--she flirts with you, brushes up against you, kisses you, wears clothes that look good on her, and basically lets you know that she's attracted to you, right?

That's NOT teasing.

Get yourself under control, mister. That's just part of being a girl. It's not "asking for it", it's not "teasing", and it's not "leading you on". It's flirting, it's being attracted to you, and it's finding ways to show it without crossing a line she's not ready to cross.

"Teasing" is making promises you're not going to keep, and it's NOT a nice thing to do, but unless she's groping you and whispering promises in your ear and then backing down at the last second, then she's NOT teasing.

May be you should not expect too much from her. Stop watching porn or too much T.V. and focus on your goals in life, stay busy . This way u will control your desire. Attempt to have sex only if she insist. Otherwise you should be working to be successful in life. And ou know successful then people will ultimately get attracted to u.so will your girl friend. Having a desire to have sex more offen is like becoming slave to sex and supporting lust. Hence focus something more important and meaningful.
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