I have her in sppech therapy
Nobody wants to disgnose with autism .
What should I do

She may not be autistic...

Does she display any of the other signs of autism?

Social Skills

* Fails to respond to his or her name
* Has poor eye contact
* Appears not to hear you at times
* Resists cuddling and holding
* Appears unaware of others' feelings
* Seems to prefer playing alone — retreats into his or her "own world"
OR

Behavior

* Performs repetitive movements, such as rocking, spinning or hand-flapping
* Develops specific routines or rituals
* Becomes disturbed at the slightest change in routines or rituals
* Moves constantly
* May be fascinated by parts of an object, such as the spinning wheels of a toy car
* May be unusually sensitive to light, sound and touch

Many professionals prefer not to diagnose autism too quickly before all other diagnoses are ruled out.

**EDIT** I left out the speech problems with autism as you state that she already has a speech problem, but have decided to post them after all

Language

* Starts talking later than other children
* Loses previously acquired ability to say words or sentences
* Does not make eye contact when making requests
* Speaks with an abnormal tone or rhythm — may use a singsong voice or robot-like speech
* Can't start a conversation or keep one going
* May repeat words or phrases verbatim, but doesn't understand how to use them

My daughter only knew 2 words when she was 3. We determined that we had a mold issue (lived in a 100 year old house) and once that was taken care of her speech improved. Her head was so full of mucus, she couldn't hear properly.

If you are in the US, your local school system can diagnose your child for developmental problems that may or may not include autism. Have you had the child's hearing tested?

I am going through a similar thing my son will be 4 in April. He doesn't seem to talk at all. He has never been tested for Autism but his Dr seems quite confident that he isn't. He is a very affectionate loving little boy. He enjoys people and is quite smart. He can get me anything I ask for. And responds to his name and point out his sister who is 2 and is talking up a storm! Along with his youngest brother who is 1 and is starting to talk as well. He plays well with his siblings and me and other family members, he doesn't have any rep. moving. I actually have a cousin who is autistic. I worry for him constantly. I had him seeing a speech therapist but he didn't seem to fond of them and they stopped seeing him. Around in my area they don't see children over the age of 3. I have tried 2 different school systems who won't see him because he isn't talking.

Is your daughter potty trained? My pediatrician told me that since my son is potty trained and can let us know when he needs to go (along with take himself) that we can rule out mental illnesses such as autism. I am going to another school for children with special needs to have his hearing tested along with him tested to find out what the cause is. His doctor seems to think there is no reason why he isn't talking and has told me that he is just stubborn. Maybe he is but I am stubborn because I won't take that as an answer to my constant worrying over him and many questions. Above it mentions
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Becomes disturbed at the slightest change in routines or rituals
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* May repeat words or phrases verbatim, but doesn't understand how to use them

They fit right in with what I tell others of my son. He constantly repeats the word Kitty and Cah Cah. He uses them appropriately but also uses those words for other things he wants as well. His other favorite is Hakkum which I don't know what it means but he says it for even more than the other two words. He also gets aggitated with a change of his room potty seat carseat and furniture arrangement in the living room along with a change of TV. He throws a huge tantrum if something is changed until he is forced to accept it or you change it back. I am not sure if that is common my other two don't mind either way. He seems to be the only one who reacts that way. Anyway I agree with Emland have her seen at a school systems. Many elementary and high school specialize in classes with Special needs children. Take her in and talk with the specialists there. Maybe they are quick to not test her because they don't believe she has the other traits. As the speech therapist who seen my son said many things can lead to a child not talking but to many times people are quick to assume the worst. Which is exactly what I did... Let me know what you find out, not to say that I am happy for what you are going through, but honestly I feel better to know that my son isn't the only one they won't have tested for austism because he has yet to talk.