My Boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and 1/2. When we first started dating, we used to talk about everything. We never got bored of each other. Since he lived 15 minutes away (by car w/o traffic) and he didn't have a car ( I was 14 he was 15), we talked on the phone ALL OF THE TIME. Now it's a year later (Im 15 he's 16) and we basically hate talking to each other. It's always so boring. We don't get excited to see the each other call. And I only see him on the weekends, so our phones are our main way of communication. Its not the same as it used to be. And I do not want to break up with him, because I love him more than anything in this world. How can we get back the excitement of each other's company and not be so bored? Is it normal to be like this?

You both are so very young. Why concern yourself with a relationship right now anyway. I think that focusing on school and just having plain fun is in order. Stop focusing so much on things like this and my first thought is that maybe it is time for you guys to do your own things without each other sometimes. Do you know what I mean.

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Originally Posted by chaosx12

My Boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and 1/2. When we first started dating, we used to talk about everything. We never got bored of each other. Since he lived 15 minutes away (by car w/o traffic) and he didnt have a car ( I was 14 he was 15), we talked on the phone ALL OF THE TIME. Now its a year later (Im 15 he's 16) and we basically hate talking to each other. It's always so boring. We dont get excited to see the each other call. And I only see him on the weekends, so our phones are our main way of communication. Its not the same as it used to be. And I do not want to break up with him, because I love him more than anything in this world. How can we get back the excitement of each other's company and not be so bored? Is it normal to be like this?

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A similar thing has happened to me before. When you guys go on dates, hang out, or whatever you guys do, do something new and exciting. Don't do the same, lets watch a movie and cuddle routine. It gets old fast.

I just kept trying to improve things and finally me and my boyfriend were back to normal. Give it time, and if it doesn't improve, talk to him and maybe you guys should just be friends.

You are all talked out, so stop talking so much and plan things to do together on the weekend.

Sticking with the same guy for a year and a half is not easy at your age. Have to congratulate u on that. There must be something that u both are doing right that has kept the relationship going.

It indeed is normal to start to feel boredom setting in. Do u see our parents having butterflies in the stomachs every time they see each other or get calls from each other?
Love changes at every stage of a relationship. It could be just as strong, but it does not give u the fluttering heart anymore. It could be giving u a sense of security that this guy knows u more than anyone else.

Look for activities to do during the weekends so that u two won't be so predictable. Break out of the routine at times. Talking is good. But talking too much is tiring (as u have already found out). Manifestation of love comes with actions too!