So, I have been dating the girl for about 8 months now and for the last 5 to 6 months of it I have been a real jealous and insecure . Her past really bothers me. Before me she was with 23 other guys! One right after another! I don't feel like I stack up, I mean how could I. I don't think I'm great in bed and my looks are, well lets just say severely below par so I am afraid she is going to leave. How do I get over this?? :confused:

Enjoy the fact that she is with you now. Those other guys obviously didn't have what she wanted, and now you should just focus on offering what you have to give.

dude don't worried about your look or how good u in bed... think about tis.. if u don't have what it take then how come u with her now ? ^^... so just enjoy and have fun... be yourself b.c it the best u can do and u good at it and if she leave u ? U know then there will be better girls ^^...


best wishes

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Originally Posted by Just_me23

Before me she was with 23 other guys! one right after another!!

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That's pretty amazing. Over what period are we talking about here? Normally, I would say leave her past out of it, but I have to admit this would be a red flag for me too. Not so much because I'd be afraid I wasn't good enough in bed. More because I'd be concerned about STD's. I hope you wear a condom every time. How long did you know her before you had sex with her?

See was with these guys over only 2 years! I don't know... and now she is getting texts from them at like 3am... and she wonders why I worry and why I get upset...

Well if they text and she says not to text her again, how about maybe even getting a new phone number and not telling the ex boyfriends,

But a persons past if just that, so unless she is doing things to make you think she is seeing someone else, you have to let her past alone.

Next you don't compare yourself to other boyfriends, you are better now becaue you are with her. If you start asking about ex boyfriends, and worrying about being better at this or that, you will never be happy.

It may be that your stomach is telling you this is the wrong one. Are you in love with her, or 'in love' with having companionship?

Your insecurities will make you see all kinds of weird things in your mind, and if left unchecked, will put a damper on any relationship, or chance to be happy. Having said that, I would feel the same as you, since she is far more experienced with men, than you are with women. Don't be intimidated by that though. Relax and enjoy, but don't lose yourself in this relationship, just go with it. Don't invest all your emotions into this, and keep your life balanced, with other things besides her. It would be a mistake to think you can't live without her, or anyone else, so be responsible for your own happiness, and let her share in it.

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Originally Posted by George_1950

It may be that your stomach is telling you this is the wrong one. Are you in love with her, or 'in love' with having companionship?

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I have to say those gut feelings saved me many times!